20190222晚上7點(diǎn)20分凭涂，11分鐘五嫂，老師《21天提升幸福感正念冥想療愈》第十四課-正念冥想掀虎，學(xué)會(huì)從批斷轉(zhuǎn)向慈悲

冥想前

終于堅(jiān)持到了50天颓遏，當(dāng)時(shí)堅(jiān)持到20多天孵坚，30多天粮宛，40多天的時(shí)候就想紀(jì)念一下，這是從來沒有過的活動(dòng)卖宠，冥想及冥想日記巍杈，所以每一天都特別不同，覺得過得很慢扛伍，回想每一天都非常清晰筷畦，這就是時(shí)間的相對論。就像小的時(shí)候覺得時(shí)間過得那么慢因?yàn)槊恳惶鞂ξ覀儊碚f都是那么不同刺洒，每一天都在探索了解未知鳖宾，而這個(gè)冥想活動(dòng)也讓我有同樣的感覺。早上練習(xí)瑜伽和舞蹈逆航，讓我愛上了運(yùn)動(dòng)鼎文，愛上了身體自由釋放的感覺，在特殊的日子里我還如此精力旺盛因俐，而且這次是我有史以來第一次感覺毫無不適感拇惋。我想這樣的健康的狀態(tài)要?dú)w于冥想和瑜伽的修煉。我也真正從一個(gè)討厭運(yùn)動(dòng)的人轉(zhuǎn)變成了一個(gè)熱愛運(yùn)動(dòng)的人抹剩，而這一切是如此自然的發(fā)生撑帖，我?guī)缀醪恢酪ジ兄x誰，我想是我自己澳眷。媽一直說我從小體弱多病胡嘿，多少年我都認(rèn)為自己身體差，而如今不管是我自己還是同修钳踊，還是教練都夸我身體素質(zhì)好衷敌，體能好勿侯，身體靈活，這些巨大的變化就這樣自然的發(fā)生了逢享。我唯有感恩罐监！我也領(lǐng)悟到了什么是真正的愛自己吴藻，當(dāng)深悟到的時(shí)候瞒爬，自己已經(jīng)是破繭成蝶！

中午按昨天的計(jì)劃針對個(gè)人發(fā)親子之道的邀請沟堡，反應(yīng)比昨天好多了侧但，得到了一些積極的反應(yīng)，就算是拒絕的我也是種下了好的種子航罗，最開心的激動(dòng)的是有2個(gè)人今天報(bào)了名禀横，原想每天有一個(gè)人報(bào)名我就立大功了，感恩這些相熟或不相熟的朋友們對我的信任粥血，也感恩他們自己的學(xué)習(xí)和愛心柏锄！想做成事，必須用心走心复亏！

21 羞恥? 我對性有羞恥感趾娃，怎么辦？

?性觀念是如何形成的? ? 為什么我們對性帶有這么多的害羞缔御，羞恥以及尷尬?這讓我們和伴侶擁有一個(gè)非常親密和滿足的性愛關(guān)系就變得非常復(fù)雜以及困惑抬闷。這是一個(gè)很深的問題，我們要來看一下孩子的性觀念這是如何形成的耕突。性對于孩子來說是非常自然的笤成，因?yàn)檫@就是我們能量的一部分，這也是我們是怎樣擁有生命的眷茁。所以第一件事情就是性是天然炕泳。我們的身體就是為了性而生的，不只是為了性上祈，也是為了繁衍培遵，但是這個(gè)建立的結(jié)構(gòu)是要以性愉悅為基礎(chǔ)的。大自然是不會(huì)犯錯(cuò)的雇逞，但是我們在這個(gè)社會(huì)中長大荤懂，現(xiàn)今社會(huì)我們這一代人都缺乏對性的理解。孩子需要去觀察到一個(gè)父母之間的健康的吸引塘砸。顯然节仿，孩子不需要見證自己父母性生活的部分，但是他們要看到掉蔬，父母之間的互相吸引以及欣賞廊宪，以及父母之間的愛矾瘾。如果孩子是在父母實(shí)際的分離中長大的，在父母的性關(guān)系中看不到任何正面的信息箭启，沒有談?wù)撨^在異性之間的情感和相互吸引壕翩，這種呈現(xiàn)就是一種羞愧感，即便沒有任何語言的傳遞傅寡，但孩子還是收到了這個(gè)對性拒絕的信息放妈，而孩子已經(jīng)內(nèi)化了這種羞愧感。對于一個(gè)女孩來說荐操，什么樣的信息可以讓她創(chuàng)造綻放的性關(guān)系?孩子需要在父母的關(guān)系中看到性的部分芜抒，這個(gè)性當(dāng)然不是指性行為，而是要去看到異性之間的情感和相互吸引托启，這會(huì)讓孩子感到安全并給孩子自信宅倒，他們也可以去讓這種自然的異性關(guān)系形成。母親在孩子早期性發(fā)展的過程中起到相當(dāng)關(guān)鍵的作用屯耸，母親需要向孩子展示成為一個(gè)女人是什么意思拐迁，享受美麗是什么意思，感官享受是什么意思疗绣，如果沒有感官上的享受线召，那么性就會(huì)變得非常困難。

冥想后From Judgments to CompassionOne of the most common issues I hear from people in my courses is what to do about their judgments. This is an issue dear to me as I discovered many years ago, when I first started experimenting with these techniques, that I also had a very strongly judgmental way of looking at people and things. I also realized at the time that I had spent my whole life with this attitude, without even realizing it. It was no surprise that I had become a cynical lawyer! That realization, even though it was painful, was the beginning of a complete change in the kind of person I was… and that change came about through practicing these techniques. Mostly we are not aware of how much of our time we spend judging others and comparing ourselves with others. It is almost as if the mind can do nothing else… it is like a continual radio going on in the back of our heads which we have become so accustomed to we don’t even notice it. Remember… when you look at people, even strangers in the street, are your thoughts more likely to be critical or more likely to be compassionate? Be honest with yourself. And remember how the mind immediately jumps to conclusions and assumptions about people, without knowing much about them at all. In this week’s lesson we will experiment with what happens when we shift our attention from the mind, where all these judgments and assumptions live, to the heart. Does it make any difference in our lives? When we are in our heart, feeling connected to that energetic center in the chest, we have a very different way of looking, as we saw in Lesson 12. Normally when we look through the mind, we are looking out, our energy goes outwards. And we are very busy with thoughts – generally critical thoughts – so there is a kind of tension involved. We want to see things in a certain way, we want things to fit with our ideas, to be the way we expect. And we judge and criticise when things are not how we want them to be. Do you recognise that?When we look through the heart, we don’t have any ideas or assumptions about how things should be. So we can see with more clarity the full picture, the present reality. And from the heart it is very easy to remember that we are all vulnerable. We are all helpless in the face of death and illness and the calamities and disasters that life sometimes brings. In that sense, we are all the same. Some of us may be better equipped to dealing with these things, but still life throws everyone a curve ball from time to time. Technique: Looking With CompassionCompassion is not pity This is not about feeling sorry for that person – just as forgiveness makes you feel superior, so does feeling sorry. Pity is a kind of arrogance and takes peoples’ dignity away. This exercise is instead about developing your heart. You don’t have to do anything for that person, or say anything to them, unless it genuinely comes from your heart. It is enough that you notice something melting in you. That will relax something in you and the other person may or may not also feel that. What do I mean by ‘unless it genuinely comes from the heart’? I mean that your action has no motivation, no goal, no expectation of getting something in return. If there is a motivation, or if you are expecting some gratitude in return, then it is not from the heart. It is a trade, and all trading comes from the mind. HomeworkStart to notice the kind of thoughts you have about other people when you see them. Be honest with yourself – don’t try and have ‘good’ or ‘nice’ thoughts. The idea is to become aware of how your mind operates when it is unconscious, which is most of the time.And then notice how it feels when you judge… become aware of how it feels in your face, especially around your jaw and eyes; feel the expression around your mouth. And notice how it affects your energy and mood – is it a good feeling? Does it lift you up or put you down? Does it make you feel expanded or contracted? Just notice – do not judge yourself for whatever you might observe, that would be missing the point. We are just becoming aware of unconscious behaviors, and that gives us the opportunity to change them if we want.And also start to become aware of how it influences your behavior with others, when you are carrying judgments about them. Does it make you feel more open towards them, or more closed? Notice how it affects your communication with them. Is it natural and easy, or a bit uptight? Can you feel the wall your judgments create between yourself and others? When you notice your mind judging, take a deep breath and connect to your heart. Just be aware of your heart. And practice looking with compassion at that person. Remember that they also have difficulties in their life, even if they hide it. They are also vulnerable - remember that. And notice something relaxing inside you when you do that.Remember this practice is for you, not the other person!