日期：2021.02.26

【人物學(xué)習】

王熙鳳：蔣勛老師講紅樓系列

最近又開始聽年前沒有聽完的蔣勛老師講紅樓系列。對王熙鳳有了不一樣的認識铸史。

先前的理解就覺得，王熙鳳潑辣狠毒狂塘，刁鉆，暴脾氣凶掰，不敢惹吴汪，卻忽略了其超強的管家本事钞楼。

透過蔣老師的講解喇闸，才發(fā)現(xiàn)，能操持這么一個大家的人询件，豈是任何一個人都勝任的燃乍？自然不是。

從秦可卿去世之后宛琅，王熙鳳開始同時管理兩邊刻蟹，事務(wù)更加繁忙和重，但卻被她理得頭頭是道嘿辟。且看看她是怎么管理的舆瘪。

首先，寧國府那邊一團亂麻红伦，上上下下也都黃了陣腳英古。王熙鳳，去了昙读，先是把所有要做的事情都安排了管理人員召调，缺什么先指定找對應(yīng)的管理人員，然后再讓這些人去分配做事情，這樣一來就不會存在不負責任唠叛，有沒有安排到的地方了只嚣。對于審批的部分，也固定了每樣的截止時間艺沼，過時不候介牙，制定好規(guī)矩，按照規(guī)矩行事澳厢。雖然一個字都不識，記憶卻是超群囚似，僅憑借下人們的描述剩拢，就能聽出個所以然來，恐怕可只有王熙鳳可以了饶唤。 對于觸犯規(guī)矩的人徐伐，不是視而不見，也不是歹毒惡恨募狂，而是以此來警戒所有人办素，不可以觸犯，不管出于什么原因祸穷，也讓下人們乖乖聽話而不再犯性穿。

起早貪黑，事務(wù)繁雜雷滚，哪怕同一時間遇到好幾個事件需曾，也不會黃了陣腳。而是按照重要緊急程度來吩咐叮囑下去祈远。不僅能安排的下人們條條是道呆万，也能夠即使體諒和向長輩們匯報，體恤他們的心情并送去范食车份，及時匯報當前情況谋减。做事情確實是個好手。

但唯獨一點扫沼，就是太貪婪出爹，放高利貸斂錢財。聰明反被聰明誤缎除。也因為對賈璉管教太嚴以政，導(dǎo)致其總覺得被束縛反倒更容易偷腥。

所以伴找，適可而止很重要盈蛮，管束也一定分場合和分角色。

【作品學(xué)習與讀書】

薩古魯：新的一年技矮，如何活出最佳的生命抖誉？

Sadhguru:?There are two ways to address your life. One way is to set goals and go for them. What kind of goals will you set? Something that you are impressed with in the world, something that you have not yet done, something that is yet to be in your life. You are trying to be like someone else or do something that someone else is doing. Whatever goals you arrive at, they are all in some way within the limitations of what you already know, or maybe a little exaggerated versions thereof. Is it not tragic to spend a whole year trying to achieve what you already know? My intention is things that you do not know should happen to you. Things that you have never imagined should enter your life. Only then will your life be truly enriched. What is the point of only doing things that you already know?

Sadhguru（薩古魯）：有兩種對待生命的方式殊轴。一種方式是設(shè)定目標，為之努力袒炉。你會設(shè)定什么樣的目標呢旁理？那些讓你留下深刻印象的事，那些你還沒做過的事我磁，那些還沒在你生命中發(fā)生的事孽文。你在嘗試變得像其他人一樣，或者去做別人在做的事夺艰。不論你達成了什么目標芋哭，它們一定程度上都是在你已知的局限內(nèi)，或者可能比你已知的略微夸張一點而已郁副〖跷花費一整年試圖達成你已知的事，這難道不可悲嗎存谎？我的愿望是拔疚，那些你不知曉的事應(yīng)該在你身上發(fā)生。那些你從未想象過的事應(yīng)該進入你的生命既荚。只有那樣稚失，你的生命才會真正豐富。只做那些你已知的事有什么意義呢恰聘？

If you become conscious, you will do your best.

如果你變得有意識墩虹，你會盡到最大努力。

When it comes to financial or physical things that you want to achieve, maybe if it matters to you, you can set up such goals. Personally, I think even that is a waste of life. Suppose you have a million dollars and your goal is to have a billion dollars by the end of the year. If it doesn’t happen, it’s a good thing because you have lived in that hope. But if it happens, let’s say in January itself, then what will you do? You will want to make it ten billion dollars. There was a time when you could be happy with one dollar. Now for the same happiness, you need a million dollars. That’s called inflation. That’s not enhancement of life.

至于那些你想要獲得的財務(wù)上或物質(zhì)上的財富憨琳，或許诫钓，如果那對你很重要，你可以設(shè)定目標篙螟。在我看來菌湃，即便那也是浪費生命。假如你有一百萬美元遍略，而你的目標是到年底擁有十億美元惧所。如果這個目標沒有實現(xiàn)，那是好事绪杏，因為你一直活在那個希望里下愈。但如果這個目標實現(xiàn)了，比如說1月份就實現(xiàn)了蕾久，那你還要做什么呢势似？你會想要再掙一百億美元。曾經(jīng)，有一美元你就可以很開心了履因，現(xiàn)在要同樣開心障簿，你需要一百萬美元。這就叫做“通貨膨脹”栅迄，這不是生命的提升站故。

All that you do with life is create inflation. Inflation is neither good for the economy nor for your life. In physics, inflation means filling up something, like you inflate the tires of a car with air. But in economics, inflation means certain parameters go out of control. Now you are consciously causing inflation in your life – that is not an intelligent way to go about it. By setting time-bound goals, you may achieve a few things, but it will be of no consequence to the life that you are.

你用生命所做的一切就是制造通貨膨脹。通貨膨脹無論對于經(jīng)濟還是對于你的生命毅舆，都不是什么好事西篓。在物理學(xué)里，膨脹意味著把東西充滿憋活，比如你把空氣充入汽車輪胎岂津。但在經(jīng)濟學(xué)里，通貨膨脹意味著某些參數(shù)失控了∮嘁矗現(xiàn)在你在有意識地在生命中創(chuàng)造通貨膨脹，這不是一種智慧的生活方式礁鲁。通過設(shè)定時限性的目標盐欺，或許可以讓你達成一些事，但這對于你這個生命來說沒有任何意義仅醇。

Instead of setting goals for the whole year, just set this one thing: By the end of the day, you must be a little more joyful, a little more enhanced, a little better. This will not work as a goal – it is better to look at it in retrospect. Tomorrow evening, just check, “Am I a little better than yesterday?” Just look at these twenty-four hours – it will make you more conscious. This is not about you being joyful or peaceful. This is about you being conscious of as many aspects of your life as possible.

與其為一整年設(shè)定目標冗美，不如就設(shè)定這一件事：每一天結(jié)束的時候，你必須要更快樂了一點兒析二，更提升了一點兒粉洼，更好了一點兒。這個作為目標行不通——應(yīng)該去反觀叶摄。明天晚上属韧，就看看，“今天的我比昨天更好了一點兒嗎蛤吓？”就看看過去這二十四小時——這會讓你更有意識宵喂。這不在于讓你變得快樂或平和。而在于讓你對你生命的盡可能多的面向有意識会傲。

By the end of the day, you must be a little more joyful, a little more enhanced, a little better.

每一天結(jié)束的時候锅棕，你必須要更快樂了一點兒，更提升了一點兒淌山，更好了一點兒裸燎。

You will do your best about whatever you are conscious of. Most of the nonsense happens because you are unconscious about so many things. All we need to do is to become conscious about everything – about our own nature, our mental states, our emotional states, our life, our physical situations, our financial situations, our ecological situations. If you become conscious, you will do your best. That’s all you need to do in life. But right now, you believe that unless you create a tension, you will not achieve anything. To get from where you are to where your goal is, you create a tension – it is like a rubber band effect. You try to keep moving from one place to another. From one level of social status to another. From one financial status to another. From one educational status to another. This is no different from how the caveman was, how hunters and gatherers were – “gather as much as you can.”

你會對你意識范圍內(nèi)的任何事都去盡力。很多荒謬的事情發(fā)生泼疑，都是因為你對很多事情都毫無意識德绿。我們要做的就是變得對一切都有意識——對于我們自己的本質(zhì)、我們的精神狀態(tài)、我們的情緒狀態(tài)脆炎、我們的生命梅猿、我們的身體情況、我們的經(jīng)濟狀況秒裕、我們的生態(tài)境況都有意識袱蚓。如果你變得有意識，你會去盡最大努力几蜻。這就是你需要在生命中做的喇潘。但現(xiàn)在你卻認為，除非你創(chuàng)造一種緊張感梭稚，否則你會一無所成颖低。為了從你的現(xiàn)在位置走向你的目標，你創(chuàng)造了緊張感——就好像橡皮筋效應(yīng)弧烤。你一直試圖從一個位置移到另一個位置忱屑，從一個社會地位移到另一個，從一種經(jīng)濟狀況移到另一種暇昂，從一個學(xué)位移到到另一個莺戒。這和過去那些穴居人、狩獵人或采集人沒什么差異——都只是"竭盡全力地累積”而已急波。

In those days, they piled up bones, feathers, and the like. Now maybe you are thinking of stocks, shares, and property. Maybe you are thinking of conquering another nation. On a material level, it looks different, but fundamentally, it is the same rudimentary thought of accumulating things. All this accumulation would make sense, had you organized transport to take all these things with you when you die. Having your own furniture in Heaven or especially in Hell would be great. Otherwise, who knows – maybe they will give you this chair with a straight back that you don’t like, so taking your own sofa with you would be great.

在過去那個時代从铲，他們囤積骨頭、羽毛等等〕文海現(xiàn)在你可能在想著（累積）股票名段、股份和財產(chǎn)。也可能你在想著征服另一個國家泣懊。這些從實物角度看可能不同伸辟，但從根本上來說，都是原始的累積的思維而已馍刮。如果你死時能有辦法安排好這些東西的運輸?shù)脑捵悦洌撬羞@些累積都還講得通。在天堂渠退，或者尤其是在地獄里忙迁，能有你自己的家具會很棒。要不然碎乃，誰知道呢——也許他們會給你一把你不喜歡的筆直的靠背椅姊扔，所以帶上你自己的沙發(fā)會是不錯的。

Anything that you gather, whether it is your knowledge, your wealth, your relationships, or whatever else, is only of value for the current transactions. If you keep it active, it will facilitate a few things for you. It has social consequence, but it has no life consequence. Instead of setting goals, it is best you find ways to nourish this life that you are. If you are nourishing this life, you only have to measure the growth. Suppose you plant a mango tree. If you set the goal that by the end of 2018, it must bear a thousand fruits, otherwise you will cut it down, all that will happen is you will cut the tree. The way to do it is to see how to nurture this tree in the best possible way, and to do that. Don’t worry about getting a thousand fruits. Whatever best can come out will come out of it. If you nourish it in a certain way, it may be more than you can imagine.

你累積的任何東西梅誓，不管是你的知識恰梢、財富佛南、關(guān)系或者其它不論什么，只對當時的情況有價值嵌言。如果你讓這些東西保持活躍嗅回，它們能為你促成一些事情。它們有社會意義摧茴，卻無生命意義绵载。與其設(shè)定目標，不如去找到滋養(yǎng)你這個生命的方式苛白。如果你滋養(yǎng)這個生命娃豹，你只需要衡量它的成長。比方說你種了一棵芒果樹购裙。如果你定了個目標懂版，到2018年年底，它必須得結(jié)1000個果實躏率，否則你就要把它砍掉躯畴，那最終會發(fā)生的就是，你會把它砍掉薇芝。正確的做法是去看怎樣能以最好的方式培育這棵樹蓬抄，然后那么去做。不要操心得到1000個果實這件事恩掷。最好的結(jié)果會出現(xiàn)倡鲸，如果你以一定方式滋養(yǎng)它供嚎，它可能超乎你的想象黄娘。

life works best when you throw yourself into it, without bothering about what comes back.

只有當你將自己投入到生命之中，而不計較有什么回報時克滴，生命才會以最佳狀態(tài)運轉(zhuǎn)逼争。

It is not good to set goals in any sphere of life, because you will only be doing something that you already know. Nothing completely new will happen in your life. I think that’s a tragedy. Your dreams coming true is no good. If what you could not even dare to dream of becomes a reality – that’s a fantastic life. Results will happen depending on how well you handle the process of life, as well as on the times and on where you are. Today you may put in a certain amount of effort, and you will earn a million dollars. A thousand years ago, someone ten times smarter than you put in a lot of effort, but still he only earned a small amount. But this comparison is not the point. The important thing is that for the times he lived in, he yielded the best he could. For the times you live in, are you yielding the best you can? That is the question.

在生命的任何一個領(lǐng)域設(shè)定目標都不是好事，因為這樣你只會做你已知的事劝赔。你的生命里不會發(fā)生任何全新的事誓焦。我認為那是個悲劇。你夢想成真并非好事着帽。如果你曾經(jīng)想都不敢想的事情成真杂伟，那才是精彩的生命。結(jié)果如何仍翰，取決于你把生命過程處理得多好赫粥，以及你所處的時代和情境如何。今天你可能投入了一些努力予借，然后你掙了100萬美元越平。一千年以前频蛔，比你聰慧十倍的人也投入了很多努力，但他只掙到了很少的錢秦叛。這個比較本身沒有意義晦溪。重點在于，在他所生活的時代挣跋，他盡己所能產(chǎn)出了最好的結(jié)果三圆。而在你所生活的時代，你是否在產(chǎn)出最好的結(jié)果浆劲？這是問題所在嫌术。

I know every management school is talking about setting goals. But goals are not set for themselves – they are set to drive other people. There are a lot of people who will never do their best – they are always under par. They are not conscious enough to understand that as a human being, you must do the best you can in your life. Otherwise, life will be wasted. For such people, you have to set goals. If you are a donkey, the less you do, the smarter you are, because there are no other possibilities for you beyond eating, reproducing, sleeping, hanging around, and dying one day. Because there are no possibilities, the less you do, the better. Too many people have adopted this donkey philosophy. They think if they do less and get more, they are doing well. In reality, they are just stupid. They are missing the whole possibility of life.

我知道每一所管理學(xué)院都在討論設(shè)定目標。但目標可不是設(shè)定給他們自己的——目標是用來驅(qū)動其他人的牌借。有很多人永遠做不到全力以赴——他們總是平平庸庸度气。他們還沒有足夠意識去看到，作為一個人膨报，你必須在生命里全力以赴磷籍，否則，生命就會被浪費掉现柠。對于這樣的人而言院领，你必須得設(shè)定目標。如果你是一頭驢够吩，你做的越少比然，你就越聰明，因為對驢子而言周循，除了吃强法、繁殖、睡覺湾笛、閑逛饮怯，然后死去，實在沒有什么其它可能性嚎研。因為沒有其它可能性蓖墅，所以你做得越少越好。太多人奉行了這種驢子哲學(xué)临扮。他們覺得如果他們做的越少论矾、得到的越多，就說明他們越成功杆勇。而事實上贪壳，他們只是愚蠢罷了，他們正在錯失整個生命的可能性靶橱。

Human life really happens if you throw yourself into everything. If you hold back, you will miss life. If you do not give yourself totally to what you are doing, you don’t deceive someone else –you only deceive yourself of life. Once, bad times came upon Shankaran Pillai. He was a construction laborer, doing menial work to earn a living. He had to carry twenty-five bricks on a board, take them up three floors, put them there, come back down again, and so on. But after some time, once the foreman was gone, Shankaran Pillai started carrying the same set of bricks up and down. People who were working with him watched this and said, “Hey, why are you bringing back the bricks?” “Well, the foreman is not looking, right?” “But now you are carrying the bricks both ways, you idiot! Otherwise, at least coming down, you would not have had to carry the load.”

唯有將自己投入到一切之中寥袭，人類生命才能真正發(fā)生路捧；如果你保留自己，你會錯失生命传黄。如果你不把自己完全投入到所做的事情之中杰扫，你不是在欺騙別人——你只是在欺騙自己，你自己的生命膘掰。曾經(jīng)章姓，山卡蘭·彼萊不走運，他是個建筑工人识埋，做著粗活維持生計凡伊。他得一次搬運板上的25塊磚，然后把它們搬上三層樓窒舟，把磚頭放在那兒系忙，再下樓回來，一直反復(fù)如此惠豺。后來银还，有一次工頭離開了，山卡蘭·彼萊開始搬著相同的磚上上下下洁墙、來來回回蛹疯。和他一起工作的人看到了說，“嘿热监，你為什么還把（已經(jīng)運上去的）磚再搬回來呢捺弦？”“嗯，工頭沒有在看呀孝扛，不是嗎列吼？”“但是現(xiàn)在你往返都搬著磚，你個蠢貨疗琉！不然的話冈欢，至少下來的時候歉铝，你可以不用搬盈简。”

It is not good to set goals in any sphere of life, because you will only be doing something that you already know.

在生命的任何一個領(lǐng)域設(shè)定目標都不是好事太示，因為這樣你只會做你已知的事柠贤。

This is what happens if you try to do less – simple things will become burdensome in your life. People are having so much trouble just going to the office and doing nine-to-five work. They are not managing the company. They are not managing the government. It’s just a chunk of work that someone has given them, just for a living – how complicated they are making that! From that, they are getting high blood pressure and their heart is breaking. You must see the scenes that happen in families. Just two people living together – how complicated! Little children – how much suffering they cause! Only once in a way, they are a joy – the rest of the time, people suffer them immensely.

當你試圖少做事時，就會發(fā)生這樣的事——在你生命里类缤，簡單的事都將變得沉重不堪臼勉。人們只是去辦公室做著朝九晚五的工作都很費力。他們不是在管理公司餐弱，也不是在管理政府宴霸，只是在應(yīng)對別人交給他們的一部分工作囱晴，僅僅是維持生計——他們都弄得多復(fù)雜！就這樣瓢谢，他們就得了高血壓畸写，心臟也無法支撐了。你一定要看看在家庭里發(fā)生的那些場景氓扛。只是兩個人一起生活而已——多復(fù)雜枯芬！小孩子——他們給家庭引發(fā)了多少痛苦！只是很偶爾采郎，他們給家庭帶來快樂——其它時候千所，人們都深受其苦。

Their work, their children, their spouses, their homes, their jobs, their driving – people suffer just about everything. This happens because they are not conscious enough to understand that life works best when you throw yourself into it, without bothering about what comes back. Life happens because of your involvement, not because of what you get. What are you going to do with what you get? The only sick pleasure you could have is if you compare yourself with someone else who has less than you. If you want to know and enjoy life, if you want to explore the full potential of this life, the only way is through absolute involvement. Let us see what will come out of it. If it is winter, nothing comes out of the earth. In springtime, with a little effort, a lot comes out. The same goes with life.

工作蒜埋、孩子淫痰、配偶、家庭整份、工作黑界、開車——人們幾乎對一切都能感到痛苦。這種境況的出現(xiàn)皂林，是因為他們沒有足夠有意識地去看到朗鸠，只有當你將自己投入到生命之中，而不計較有什么回報時础倍，生命才會運轉(zhuǎn)得最好烛占，生命因你的投入而發(fā)生，而非你的所得沟启。你要用你的所得做什么呢忆家？你能有的唯一病態(tài)的快樂，是將自己與那些擁有得比你少的人進行比較德迹。如果你想要知曉和享受生命芽卿，如果你想要探索這個生命的全部潛力，唯一的方法是通過絕對的投入胳搞。然后讓我們看看會有什么結(jié)果卸例。如果是冬天，大地一無所生肌毅；可是在春天里筷转，只要很少的努力，就會產(chǎn)出很多悬而。生命也是同樣的道理呜舒。

The biggest mistake people make is to be goal-oriented. If you set yourself the goal to get enlightened by 2018, you will be totally messed up by the end of the year. If you just do what you have to do, life will naturally flower.

人們犯的最大的錯誤就是以目標為導(dǎo)向。如果你給自己設(shè)定了目標——2018年要開悟笨奠。到年底的時候袭蝗，你會一團混亂唤殴。如果你只是去做需要做的事，生命自會綻放到腥。

May the coming year bring the Best to you.

祝愿來年把最好的帶給你眨八。

【思考】

元宵節(jié)：

今日元宵節(jié)。老話說過完今天就過完年了左电。好好開始學(xué)習啦廉侧。

從昨天開始，就發(fā)現(xiàn)上學(xué)的小朋友們都提著各式各樣的燈籠篓足，有的看樣子像自己做的段誊，有的看上去像是買的。風格各異卻趣味橫生栈拖×幔看到一個小朋友拎著用各樣紅包黏貼而成的燈籠，恐怕是在說看看我的壓歲錢有多少吧涩哟。哈哈哈索赏。也有仿古式圓燈籠，下面有個長穗子贴彼，大紅燈籠高高掛起的感覺潜腻。也有用畫紙糊起來的燈籠。小朋友們都小心翼翼的拿著器仗，生怕一不小心破壞了的感覺融涣。

突然就想到小時候的我自己，雖然沒有做過燈籠精钮，卻著實買過很多漂亮的燈籠威鹿。而且會在元宵節(jié)這一天去賞煙花看燈會，好不熱鬧轨香。記憶當中忽你，買過皮卡丘的小黃燈，買過很大一只孔雀燈籠臂容，其他的也有買過可記憶不深了科雳。尤其那只孔雀燈籠，一直放在我的臥室策橘，直到后來被弟弟妹妹去我家玩的缺胳膊斷腿的炸渡，再后來就送人了娜亿，然后就不知去向了丽已。

因為拿著燈籠，還會隨著燈的閃爍而出聲音买决，就好像是在告訴別人看吧沛婴，我的燈籠很好看一樣吼畏，提著就很開心了。每年也很開心有一天都可以買到一個燈籠嘁灯。想象泻蚊，自從上學(xué)離家，已經(jīng)有很多年沒有再與家人一起過過元宵節(jié)了丑婿，也很多年沒有再買過燈籠了性雄。

轉(zhuǎn)而看到現(xiàn)在的小朋友能夠在元宵節(jié)制作燈籠，一種感動就油然而生羹奉。是啊秒旋，出不來外面，卻可以將那種年味著實的一起小聚過一下诀拭。吃上一碗圓圓的湯圓伴著醪糟迁筛，賞賞月，也算是完美耕挨。

【每日一句】

充實而飽滿的活好每一天细卧。

【夢境】

好像是沒有的

【每日反思與改過】

昨天開工第一天，早上迷迷糊糊的筒占，下午才開始精力集中做事情贪庙。節(jié)后癥還挺明顯的。希望慢慢克服這種轉(zhuǎn)換的不自然切換翰苫。

本來想說周末好好留下寫論文插勤，卻在朋友發(fā)出邀請的時候猶豫再三。果然是待不住的人革骨，總想跑出去农尖。按捺不住跳動的心。嗯良哲，約束好自己盛卡，快速做完需要做的事情再做別的事情。