日期：2021.01.31

【人物學習】

攝影師ZBX：

昨天和男朋友去看拍照事宜，一起約了他的好朋友辟躏，ZBX。

攝影師ZBX作谚，拍照已有10年三娩，可以說深知該行業(yè)的發(fā)展情形，以及現(xiàn)階段大部分地方的情況妹懒。

他說雀监，想換個行業(yè)干。不想再做這個行業(yè)了眨唬。

為什么呢会前？不是因為不喜歡，是有時候自己想要的風格拍不出來以及顧客的不配合弄的自己很心累匾竿。也突然明白瓦宜，當你喜歡一個東西的時候，你只想仔細去欣賞或去找合適的場景去拍岭妖，而不再是作為一項職業(yè)的賺錢临庇。包含著不得不的部分在里面。

也明白說昵慌，最初開始的時候假夺，我們是在生存階段，賺錢斋攀，讓自己手頭有所盈余已卷。然后才開始去想自己要做些什么，要怎么去做的過程淳蔼，而不再是任由他人所擺布侧蘸。

【作品學習與讀書】

薩古魯：對伴侶心生厭煩，要如何繼續(xù)去愛鹉梨？

Speaker:?This question is from Deepika,"Sadhguru, you said in one of the darshans that you are, you should treat everyone, just as you treat, treat me. Sadhguru you are a karuna avatar. But I have one inhuman, nasty creature in my home. It becomes difficult to see you in him, how to deal with him in this situation?"

發(fā)言者：這個問題來自Deepika讳癌，“薩古魯，您在之前的一次Darshan中講過存皂，‘你們應(yīng)該像對待我一樣對待每一個人析桥。’薩古魯艰垂，您是慈悲的化身。但是我家里有一個不通人情埋虹、令人厭惡的生物猜憎。把他看作是您真的很難，在這種情況下該拿他怎么辦搔课？”

Sadhguru:?In how many years of marriage does this evolution happen? Or it's a devolution. I'm sure he was a wonderful, romantic, wonderful man at one time. I don't know in how many years of marriage does he become a nasty creature? And how much role you have in making a nasty creature? See, especially if he is nasty creature, especially if it is so, this is your perception. But especially if somebody is a nasty creature in your home or in your office or wherever you are. You're seeing something in a certain way is not about them. It's about you. Do you want to keep your eyes, your mind, your heart, your body, pleasant or unpleasant? You make up your mind on that one.

Sadhguru（薩古魯）：這是結(jié)婚多少年后“進化”成這樣的胰柑？或者說“退化”。我相信他曾經(jīng)是一個很棒、很浪漫的小伙子。我不知道結(jié)婚多少年后，他變成了一個討厭的生物贮配？而在造出這個討厭家伙的過程中你參與了多少稼虎？看，尤其是如果他是個討厭的生物鱼的，尤其是如果真的這樣，這是你的看法。但尤其是如果你家里或辦公室颖系，無論在哪里有個討厭的生物。你以某種方式在看事情并不與他們有關(guān)辩越，而是與你有關(guān)嘁扼。你想讓你的眼睛、你的頭腦黔攒、你的內(nèi)心趁啸、你的身體，保持愉悅還是不愉悅督惰？這個你要做好決定不傅。

Now, if you look at him, I said even that nasty creature, please look at him. It's like me. I'm not telling you that: you have to listen to his teachings or take new practices from him. No, I'm saying, if you have looked at me with a certain sense of reverence, devotion, love, affection, whatever is your emotion. If you have, please see everything with that, because all I'm saying is: you have a body, you have a mind you have an emotion, energy, we're talking about your emotion right now. If you hit a certain level of sweetness of emotion, at one point in your life, either because of your love or devotion or compassion or whatever, you hit a certain level of sweetness. This is the high point in your life. Now you should not come back from that you must see how to go beyond that. I am saying whatever was the highest or the sweetest or the most wonderful emotion you had make that the baseline. Why are you coming back again?

現(xiàn)在，如果你看待他姑丑，我說即便是那個討厭的家伙蛤签，請像看待我一樣看待他。我并沒有跟你說：你必須聽他的教導或者跟他學習新的練習栅哀。不震肮，我說的是，如果你帶著一種尊敬留拾、奉獻戳晌、愛、喜愛痴柔，不管什么情感沦偎，看待我。如果你有這樣看待我咳蔚，請這樣看待一切豪嚎，因為我所說的就是：你有身體，你有頭腦谈火，你有情感侈询，還有能量，我們現(xiàn)在在說的是你的情感糯耍。如果你在生命中某個時刻嘗到了一定程度的情感的甜蜜扔字，無論是因為你的愛或者奉獻囊嘉，還是同情或別的什么，你嘗到了一定程度的甜蜜革为。這是你生命中的最高點∨ち唬現(xiàn)在你不應(yīng)該從那里下來，你必須看看如何去超越它震檩。我的意思是琢蛤，不管你有過什么最高漲的，或最甜蜜的恳蹲，或最美妙的情感虐块，把它作為基準。你為什么又回去了呢嘉蕾？

If you did not know such an emotion, then what would I tell you? Which is the sweetest emotion you had in your life? My child, okay, see, everybody as your child. We’ve told you that at one time. Then I saw you sat here with tears of blissfulness and love coming out of you. Then I said, see everybody as you're looking at me, right now. Because this will make your eyes, your mind, your heart, your body and your very being sweet and wonderful. This is not about him. Especially if he's being difficult. Then you're being well trained. Even if you go to hell you will do well. Yes. Because nobody has guaranteed you. Have I ever told you,“I will get you a ticket to heaven?” I've been constantly threatening you, “Right here things will happen”. So, you must understand this is about your transformation.

如果你不知道這樣的情感贺奠，那我該怎么跟你說呢？你人生中最甜蜜的情感是什么错忱？我的孩子儡率，好吧，把所有的人都看作你的孩子以清。我們曾經(jīng)告訴過你們儿普。我看見你們坐在這里流下了喜悅和愛的淚水。然后我說：“就像現(xiàn)在看我一樣看待每個人掷倔∶己ⅲ”因為這會讓你的眼睛、你的頭腦勒葱、你的心浪汪、你的身體和你這個生命變得美妙而甜蜜。這跟他沒關(guān)系凛虽。特別是如果他不好相處死遭。而你訓練有素。就算你去了地獄凯旋，你也會過得很好呀潭。是的。因為沒有人向你保證過至非。我告訴過你們“我會給你一張去天堂的票”嗎钠署？我一直在不停地嚇唬你們說：“事情會在此地發(fā)生』耐郑”所以谐鼎，你必須明白這是關(guān)于你的轉(zhuǎn)化。

The problem with you is because you read, what are those? Well, I don't want to take names anyway. You did, read all those romantic books when you're a teenager and then you imagined all kinds of things. You're not first of all straight with yourself. Your hormones are working up. Suddenly you look at somebody, “Wow! I can't believe she's so beautiful. She's so fantastic. He's so handsome. He is so wonderful. Everything he does, ah.” You're bullshitting yourself. No, no. Whatever they do, you make you yourself beautiful. Now even if they're doing nasty things, you're still wonderful. This is different. You know, they're doing nasty things, and you're still wonderful. This is fantastic. They are doing nasty things, but you think they're doing beautiful things. This is a stupid nonsense.

你的問題是戳杀，因為你讀了……那些什么该面？好吧，我也不說書名了信卡。你們在青春期的時候隔缀，讀過所有的浪漫小說。然后你想象各種各樣的事情傍菇。你首先對自己就不坦誠猾瘸。你的荷爾蒙在起作用。忽然你看著一個人：“哇丢习！真不敢相信她這么漂亮牵触。她這么出色。他好帥咐低。他太棒了揽思。他做的所有事情，啊见擦《ず梗”你是在哄騙自己。不鲤屡，不损痰。不管他們做什么，你都讓自己保持美麗【评矗現(xiàn)在就算他們在做討厭的事卢未，你依然很美好。這是不一樣的堰汉。你知道辽社，他們在做討厭的事，而你依然很美好衡奥。這非常棒爹袁。他們在做討厭的事，但是你認為他們在做好事矮固。這就是愚蠢的胡說八道了失息。

I’ll tell you, somebody who was serving in Indian Army told me this story because we went through a similar situation somewhere else. So at that time, he was narrating this. They were posted in the north-eastern region where there's a certain amount of elephant population. So he is a battalion leader, he's heading about a group of eighteen to twenty people, I think they are marching in the forests and they see a huge tusker, everybody backs off, all of them have weapons, okay, powerful weapons. This is anti-insurgency group that means they are fully armed and equipped. They can shoot down a tusker from hundred meters, two-hundred meters, whatever they want. But they all back off because that's not the reason why they are there.

我告訴你們，一個在印度軍隊服役的人給我講了這個故事档址。因為我們在別的地方經(jīng)歷了類似的情況盹兢。那時候，他在講述這件事守伸。他們駐扎在東北部地區(qū)绎秒，那里有不少大象。他是營長尼摹，帶著十八到二十個人的隊伍见芹，我記得他們是在森林里行軍剂娄，他們看見了一個巨大的長牙象玄呛，所有人都后退了徘铝，他們所有人都有武器惕它，威力強大的武器。這是鎮(zhèn)壓叛亂的隊伍郁惜，所以他們都全副武裝扳炬。他們完全可以從一兩百米外射殺一只長牙象恨樟，他們想射殺什么都行劝术。但是他們后退了养晋，因為那不是他們此行的目的绳泉。

But he was telling me this because this some situation happened like this with one South Indian person, so suddenly there was one Tamil man in the thing who was a sergeant, Havildar, he put his weapons down and he said, “Ganapathy has come. Ganesha, Ganesha!” and he started chanting a mantra. He knew some Ganapathy mantra, he started chanting, he ran in front and he went close to the elephant just fifty feet away and went down on his knees and started loudly saying the chant, the elephant looked at him,“Who is this bloody fool?” You know, calling him all kinds of names that he doesn't like. And these people were watching, this is some kind of a miracle happening. The elephant is just standing there and this guy's on his knees chanting, the elephant moved so quickly and within less than two seconds, or within probably five seconds, he was upon him, he just crushed him, turned back and went. These people were just aghast and they just watching him being crushed. Then some people pulled out the weapons when the person whom I knew, was in charge of it, he calmed them down because it's already dead. The man is dead in one shot.

但是他告訴我這個零酪，因為這樣的情況發(fā)生在一個南印度人身上拇勃，突然間有個泰米爾人卷入此事方咆，他是個中士，一個中士榆骚，他放下武器說：“象神來了妓肢。Ganesha职恳，Ganesha放钦！”然后他開始唱誦一段mantra（真言）操禀。他知道一些象神mantra（真言），于是開始唱誦揪惦，他跑到前面去罗侯，離大象只有五十英尺遠然后跪下，開始大聲唱誦钩杰，那只大象看著他纫塌，“這個該死的傻子是誰讲弄？”用各種他不喜歡的名字稱呼他。而這些人正在看避除，像某種奇跡正要發(fā)生一樣怎披。那只大象就站在那兒驹饺，這個家伙則跪在地上唱著钳枕，那只大象速度很快，大概就兩秒鐘時間赏壹，或者不到五秒鐘，它踩上了他蝌借。大象碾碎了他，轉(zhuǎn)身走了凝化。這些人都驚呆了，他們看著他被碾碎混巧。有人拿出了武器秘蛔，然后我認識的這個人，他是負責人傍衡，他讓他們冷靜下來深员，因為那個人已經(jīng)死了。那個男人一下就死了蛙埂。

Why I'm saying this to you is: elephant will not do, wild elephant is not going to do pleasant things to you because you call him a god. You call him Ganapathy and try to worship him. He's not going to do, he will do what he has to do. Similarly, the creature in your house. He will do what he has to do. Whatever is his characteristic.

我之所以要告訴你們這個是因為：大象不會倦畅，野象不會因為你叫它神就對你做好事。你稱他為象神绣的，想要敬奉他滔迈。他不會做好事，他只會做他得做的事被辑。同理燎悍，你家里的那個生物。他會做他得做的盼理。不管他是什么性格谈山。

It is just about you. I'm talking. You're always thinking of life as a relationship. No, no, I want you to understand, before you were born, or even when you were being born you did not have a relationship even with your mother. This is going to be very unpopular. People are going to pick on me, but please look at it. You don't have a relationship. You just have an existence. Relationship happened because of your needs, you saw her as your food, you went for her, you saw her as the basis of your survival. You recognized that quickly, you know, the moment a child is born, hand her over to another man or another woman, and let them take care of all the child's needs, child will immediately go to them. This whole idea that you think it's coming to you because you're the mother and you delivered, no, it is because of the needs you form relationships. Otherwise there is just existence.

我在說的只是關(guān)于你。你總是將生活想成是一種關(guān)系宏怔。不奏路，不，我要你明白臊诊，在你出生之前鸽粉，甚至在你出生之時，你和你的母親也都沒什么關(guān)系抓艳。這個說法將非常不受歡迎触机。人們會找我的茬，但是請你看清楚。你沒有關(guān)系儡首。你只是一個存在片任。關(guān)系的發(fā)生是因為你的需求，你將她看作食物蔬胯，你去找她对供，你把她看做你生存的基礎(chǔ)。你很快就意識到這一點了氛濒，孩子一出生产场，你把她交給另外一個男人或者女人，讓他們照顧孩子的一切需求舞竿，孩子會馬上親近他們涝动。你總覺得他會親近你，因為你是母親炬灭，是你生了他，這整個想法不對靡菇，那是因為有需求重归，所以你建立了關(guān)系。否則就只有存在厦凤。

This existence can either become conscious and live in a phenomenal presence and become available to it. Or just do or go on doing the circus. Initially, your mother was everything. She was the most fantastic creature and then you grew up, you became an adolescent and you saw a boy, he was the most fantastic man, in the world, then your mother came in between suddenly you started hating her. Hello. Then the man came, he was most beautiful. Then he became a nasty creature, or so you thought. Now you think he's the worst human being, this goes on.

這種存在要么變得有意識鼻吮，活在宏大的臨在中并向它敞開。要么只是繼續(xù)著這場鬧劇较鼓。一開始椎木，你的母親是一切。她是最棒的人博烂，然后你長大了香椎，你成了一個青少年，然后你看到一個男孩禽篱，他是世界上最棒的男人畜伐，然后你的母親介入了，你突然開始恨她了躺率。嗯玛界？接著那個男人出現(xiàn)了，他是最美好的悼吱。然后他變成了一個討厭的家伙慎框，或者你是這么認為的。現(xiàn)在你認為他是最糟糕的人后添，這一套不斷在繼續(xù)笨枯。

I want you to understand you're making up both beauty and nasty. I am not asking you to make up. I am not asking you to think whatever this person is doing is fantastic. That's a stupid way to exist. It's just that if you see everything, whatever is the peak experience you had, make that the baseline, this is growth. You played the snake and the ladder game, choing, choing, chisk, you played that game? Snake and the ladder game. So when you play this game, your intent is once you climb a ladder, you don't want to come back. You don't want to hit a snake. You want to find another ladder, another ladder go up, that's a natural expression of life.

我要你明白，你在編造美麗與丑陋。我沒有要你去編造猎醇。我沒有要你去想這個人做的任何事情都很棒窥突。這樣活著是很愚蠢的。只是在你看待一切時硫嘶，不管你有什么樣的高峰體驗阻问，把那當做基準線，這就是成長沦疾。你玩過蛇與梯子的游戲称近，你玩過那個游戲嗎？蛇與梯子的游戲哮塞。當你玩這個游戲的時候刨秆，你的目的就是一旦你爬上了一個梯子，你不想回頭忆畅。你不想碰到蛇衡未。你要找另一個梯子，再另一個梯子家凯，向上爬缓醋，那是生命的自然表達。

So once you know a certain level of sweetness, within you, don't bring it down. That should be the basis. The next thing should be better and better. So when I said, every, right now you were sitting here with tears of ecstasy and love like this with me, then I said, “Let this be the basis. Don't go down from this. See everything as this.” At least let this much happen. If this is continuously happening, constantly happening, then of course you will hit another ladder. Just a little bit of time. Don't come down. That's all I said.

所以一旦你知曉了內(nèi)在一定程度的甜蜜绊诲，不要拉低它送粱。那應(yīng)該是基準。接下來的事情應(yīng)該越來越好掂之。所以當我說抗俄，此刻你流著狂喜的淚水，帶著這樣的愛和我在這兒坐在一起世舰，那我說：“讓這成為基準动雹。不要從這兒掉下去。像這樣看待一切事物跟压∏⒔海”至少要經(jīng)常這樣。如果這持續(xù)裆馒、不間斷地發(fā)生姊氓，那么你自然就會爬上另外一個梯子。只是需要一點點時間喷好。不要下來翔横。這就是我要說的。

And please don't describe him as a nasty creature, poor man. This happened, I think I told you, maybe one of these days only I told you, I don't remember but let me repeat this, Shankaran Pillai thought his wife is having an affair, hired a detective. I'm saying it loudly because just to remind you, said, “I want proof against her”. So detective just waited outside the house, the she left the house. He followed her. Then she went to, parked near a park, went inside. A man was sitting on the bench. The moment he saw her, he came running, she went running, they hugged each other held hands and sat down on the bench and chatting away joyfully, laughing.

還有梗搅，請不要把他說成一個討厭的生物禾唁，可憐的人效览。有一回，我好像給你們講過荡短∝ね鳎可能就在這些天我告訴過你們，我不記得了掘托，讓我再講一遍瘦锹，山卡拉?皮萊認為他的妻子有外遇了，他雇了一個偵探闪盔。我在大聲說弯院，只是為了提醒你，他說：“我要對付她的證據(jù)泪掀√”然后偵探等在房子外面，接著她離開了房子异赫。他跟著她椅挣。然后她在一個公園附近停了車，走了進去塔拳。一個男人坐在長凳上鼠证。他一看到她就跑了過去，她也跑了起來蝙斜，他們擁抱在一起，手拉著手在長凳坐下澎胡，開心地聊著孕荠，笑著。

He took the whole video and within a few hours, he came to Shankaran Pillai in his office and said, “I got all the proof that you wanted, just in one day. I did my job. I have the proof, here watch the video”. Shankaran Pillai started watching the video and said “No, I can't believe this. No, no, this can't be, I can't believe this. No, I can't believe this.” He said,“What you Can't believe? It's a video. It's not doctored. It's just a video that I took just now.” He said, “That's not the point fool, I can't believe she's so much fun.” So after fifteen days is over, when the man goes away somewhere, then you will see how much fun he was. Don't do this to yourself.

他拍下了整個視頻攻谁，幾個小時之后稚伍，他走進山卡拉?皮萊的辦公室說道，“我在一天之內(nèi)就拿到了你需要的所有證據(jù)戚宦。我完成了任務(wù)个曙。我有證據(jù)，請看錄像受楼】寻幔”山卡拉?皮萊開始看錄像，然后說：“不艳汽，我簡直不敢相信猴贰。不，不河狐，這不可能米绕，我不敢相信這些瑟捣。不，我不敢相信這些栅干÷跆祝”他說，“你不敢相信什么碱鳞？這是錄像桑李。它不是偽造出來的。這就是我剛剛拍的錄像劫笙≤皆”他說：“這不重要，傻瓜填大，我不敢相信她竟然這么有趣戒洼。”所以在這15天結(jié)束后允华，當那個男人去了別的地方圈浇，然后你會發(fā)現(xiàn)他曾是多么有趣。不要這么對你自己靴寂。

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v.qq.com/vplus/59bf0e8c6b29f82dbb70c7e955ac4366

【思考】

獲利：

人磷蜀，都喜歡貪小便宜，或者說希望說是最大獲利者百炬。自然也就有了比較褐隆。

因為比較之中，如果相同的事情剖踊，自己花了較為少的錢庶弃，自然會開心很多。

誰都不想被騙德澈，卻其實都深陷其中歇攻。我們以為的，往往并不是我們所以為的梆造。

就像缴守，看你長大的那些人，總會有著他們看你長大的印象镇辉，而定性你的形象屡穗。而忘記了一個人是多面的，他所表現(xiàn)出來的忽肛，不過是大多數(shù)情況下的結(jié)果鸡捐，而不是一個完整人的部分。

也如同麻裁，再好的朋友箍镜，也會因為說源祈，這個人給你少了，那個人沒少太多色迂，而彼此隱瞞香缺。所以，朋友面前別談錢歇僧，否則很傷感情图张，確實是真的。

謀利的社會诈悍，獲利成了本質(zhì)祸轮。那么，我們終究是因為什么侥钳，才喜歡貪小便宜呢适袜？

因為覺得自己賺到了，但也是以犧牲別人的利益來賺取想要的部分舷夺。那到底是賺到了的嘛苦酱？

其實最終不過是呈現(xiàn)在大多數(shù)情況之下，沒有被坑的很嚴重给猾，也沒有完全被坑疫萤，只是一種trade-off下差不多的情況。

所以敢伸，不獲利是不可能的扯饶，但完全獲利也不那么輕松易得，彼此都有所互利池颈，可接受范圍之內(nèi)尾序，就ok。也就是那個度饶辙。

【每日一句】

有時候蹲诀，事情不盡如人意斑粱，也要努力去忘掉那些曾經(jīng)的設(shè)想弃揽，而從現(xiàn)在開始。

【夢境】

奇怪的夢

【每日反思與改過】

多說人的好则北，少說其的短矿微，哪怕是開玩笑也盡量不說。

有什么事尚揣，當日事當日畢涌矢。