日期：2021.02.24
【人物學(xué)習(xí)】
弟弟：
昨天下午去弟弟家住靴姿，趕今早的飛機(jī)魂仍。
弟弟在家里拐辽，特別愛(ài)喝飲料和吃甜的東西，家里人為了怕他牙不好擦酌，有時(shí)候就得藏著點(diǎn)俱诸，不然放桌上就沒(méi)有了。
可能也是長(zhǎng)身體仑氛，特別的能吃乙埃，還特別愛(ài)吃肉闸英。小姨吃飯的時(shí)候說(shuō)：明天還能吃一頓羊肉臊子，就沒(méi)有了介袜。弟弟則說(shuō)：沒(méi)有了再買(mǎi)呀甫何，再做呀。果然小孩子遇伞，啥沒(méi)有就說(shuō)買(mǎi)辙喂，而不會(huì)思考為什么不買(mǎi)的背后原因。
小姨夫說(shuō)鸠珠，我們要打算買(mǎi)房了巍耗，你要做好幾年省吃儉用的準(zhǔn)備哈。還哪里的羊肉可吃渐排。一斤就40多炬太，這一天基本就能吃1斤多，哪里還能天天吃的起呢驯耻。但孩子不會(huì)去在意亲族，他們?cè)谝獾闹皇菦](méi)有了可以買(mǎi)呀。
然后他寫(xiě)作業(yè)可缚，結(jié)束后看了會(huì)電視霎迫，弟弟問(wèn)我，姐姐你平時(shí)看什么電視帘靡，我說(shuō)什么都不看呀知给，他說(shuō)那你看什么。都不看嗎描姚？我說(shuō)不看呀涩赢、他竟然特別不能理解，我笑一笑轰胁，很想說(shuō)平時(shí)哪里還有什么時(shí)間看電視呢谒主。事情都做不完，哪里有那么多閑工夫呢赃阀。但我回復(fù)霎肯，就是不看呀。留他一個(gè)人在那里思索榛斯。
要睡覺(jué)錢(qián)观游，拉著我下了兩盤(pán)五子棋，結(jié)果因?yàn)槲叶稼A了驮俗，他就不想下了懂缕。又開(kāi)始和我聊天，各種問(wèn)題都指向一個(gè)問(wèn)題王凑，就是這個(gè)大點(diǎn)的孩子總想知道是真的假的搪柑，對(duì)的還是錯(cuò)的聋丝。比如他會(huì)問(wèn)我，姐姐有外星人嘛工碾？ 姐姐人有靈魂嗎弱睦？等之類(lèi)的。他想要一個(gè)肯定的答案渊额，但我也給不了况木。我只是說(shuō)，可能會(huì)有哦旬迹』鹁或許，10來(lái)歲的孩子奔垦，眼里只是二分類(lèi)屹耐，對(duì)與錯(cuò)，真與假宴倍，而沒(méi)有介于兩者之間的部分张症，所以才會(huì)如此疑惑。又喜歡去看各種神奇的事情鸵贬，就更加的想要去弄個(gè)明白所以然，卻也沒(méi)有弄明白脖捻。
也知道說(shuō)阔逼，一個(gè)小孩的家庭，其實(shí)孩子也蠻孤獨(dú)的地沮。孤獨(dú)到?jīng)]有人可以說(shuō)話嗜浮，和爸媽說(shuō)吧，爸媽總是敷衍要么就不讓說(shuō)摩疑；和其他哥哥姐姐說(shuō)危融，有時(shí)候會(huì)被嫌棄煩，而不聽(tīng)雷袋。所以吉殃，抓住一個(gè)人，就能說(shuō)好多好多楷怒，把他腦袋里所想的東西蛋勺，都一股腦的倒出來(lái)給你。突然就鸠删，好心疼弟弟抱完，覺(jué)得他怎么有那么一點(diǎn)點(diǎn)可憐∪信荩或許也是對(duì)自己的一種可憐吧巧娱。自己也是獨(dú)生子碉怔，一直想要有個(gè)弟弟妹妹，可無(wú)奈也是沒(méi)有禁添。但好在撮胧，我有疑問(wèn)的時(shí)候回去上網(wǎng)找尋答案，而弟弟則還停留在想要有個(gè)老師一樣的人來(lái)答疑解惑上荡∨坑＃可他并不知道，那樣的老師其實(shí)是不存在的酪捡。而最終自己得是那個(gè)去答疑解惑的老師叁征。
【作品學(xué)習(xí)與讀書(shū)】
薩古魯：家庭是一個(gè)讓你超越好惡的訓(xùn)練場(chǎng)
Sadhguru:?There are many associations we make to conduct our life process. We make associations of business, nationality, community. But among all these things, family is a fundamental association. You must understand family for what it is, and conduct it for what it is. The problem is we get overwhelmed with emotion and raise it to another place, which it is not. In many ways, my mother never tried to influence us in any way. By not wanting to influence us, she was the biggest influence. What human beings have to offer you, and what you have to offer them should not be trampled upon. But the illusions we create around them must be trampled upon, otherwise we will miss the beauty of people coming together and sharing things.
Sadhguru（薩古魯）：我們建立了很多組織來(lái)構(gòu)建我們的生活。我們建立商業(yè)逛薇、國(guó)家和社區(qū)捺疼。但其中，家庭是最基本的組織永罚。你必須理解家庭是什么啤呼，并以此來(lái)引導(dǎo)家庭。問(wèn)題是我們被情緒淹沒(méi)了呢袱，并把家庭引向了另一個(gè)地方官扣。在很多層面上，我的母親從不試圖以任何方式影響我們羞福。借由這樣的“無(wú)為”惕蹄，她做出了最大的“有為”，她給我們帶來(lái)了最大的影響治专。那些人類(lèi)可以提供給你的卖陵，以及你可以奉獻(xiàn)給人類(lèi)的，不應(yīng)當(dāng)被踐踏张峰。但是泪蔫，那些我們?cè)谌藗冎車(chē)圃斓幕孟啾仨毐淮輾В駝t喘批，我們將錯(cuò)過(guò)人們聚在一起相互分享的美好撩荣。
In many ways, family means “the closest association.” That means you have to constantly step on each other’s feet. When you constantly step on each other’s feet because you are sharing the same space, it brings a certain level of understanding and maturity. Suppose you have a Facebook family. You can have a family of 10,000 without any problems because you don’t have to share anything with anybody except pictures. It does not challenge you. Suppose you do not like someone on Facebook, you can just click and they are gone! That is not the case with family. One moment, they do something and you hate them, but you can’t click them away.
在許多層面上，家庭意味著“最親密的組織”谤祖，這意味著大家難免會(huì)不斷踩到彼此的腳婿滓。當(dāng)你因?yàn)榉窒硗粋€(gè)空間而時(shí)不時(shí)踩到別人的腳時(shí)，這會(huì)帶來(lái)一定程度的理解和成熟粥喜。假設(shè)你在臉書(shū)（Facebook）上成立一個(gè)家庭凸主，即使擁有一個(gè)一萬(wàn)人的家庭也不會(huì)有任何問(wèn)題，因?yàn)槌朔窒碚掌舛钕妫悴槐嘏c他人分享任何東西卿吐。它不會(huì)挑戰(zhàn)到你旁舰。假設(shè)你不喜歡臉書(shū)上的某個(gè)人，你只要一點(diǎn)鼠標(biāo)嗡官，他們就不見(jiàn)了箭窜！但家人不是這樣的。某個(gè)時(shí)刻衍腥，他們做了某些事磺樱，你怨恨他們，可你沒(méi)法一點(diǎn)鼠標(biāo)就讓他們離開(kāi)婆咸。
Family is a training ground where you rise beyond likes and dislikes.
家庭是讓你超越好惡的訓(xùn)練場(chǎng)竹捉。
When people stay together, either by bondage or choice, they mature because maturity happens when you rise above your likes and dislikes. There are so many things that you do not like about your parents, children, husband, wife. Initially, it irritates the hell out of you, but after some time, you rise beyond it. If you rise beyond it by giving in and saying, “The hell with it!” that will not help. But if you rise beyond it consciously, you have turned spiritual. Without intention, you have become spiritual. That is the most beautiful way to do it.
當(dāng)人們住在一起時(shí)，無(wú)論是出于束縛或是選擇尚骄，他們都會(huì)變得成熟块差。當(dāng)你超越好惡時(shí)，你就成熟了倔丈。在你的父母憨闰、孩子、丈夫需五、妻子身上鹉动，有那么多你不喜歡的地方。一開(kāi)始宏邮，它讓你抓狂训裆，但過(guò)了一段時(shí)間之后，你就會(huì)超越這一切蜀铲。如果你放棄了，說(shuō)：“讓它見(jiàn)鬼去吧属百！”记劝，這么做不會(huì)有任何幫助。但如果你有意識(shí)去超越族扰，你就變得靈性了厌丑。不知不覺(jué)地，你就變得靈性渔呵。這是最美妙的方式怒竿。
Family is a training ground where you rise beyond likes and dislikes. But because some people cannot get along with their families, they want to move into the ashram. I tell them, “If you find living with three people too challenging, you are not fit to live with 1,000 people!” If you are doing great with your family and you want to move into the ashram, that is great, you have passed the test. But if you cannot live with a few people, how are you going to live with 1,000 people?
家庭是一個(gè)讓你超越好惡的訓(xùn)練場(chǎng)。但因?yàn)橛行┤藷o(wú)法和家人和睦共處扩氢，他們想搬到靜修所去住耕驰。我告訴他們：“如果你發(fā)現(xiàn)和3個(gè)人一起住都很有挑戰(zhàn)的話，那你就不適合與1000個(gè)人住在一起录豺！”如果你和你的家人相處得很好而你想搬到靜修所朦肘，那很棒饭弓，你已經(jīng)通過(guò)了測(cè)試。但如果你不能和幾個(gè)人住在一起媒抠，你又怎能和1000個(gè)人住在一起弟断？
Above all, family is very important to fulfill your physical, psychological, financial and social needs. You formed an association that you call “family” to fulfill?your?needs. Do not forget this. Right now, you may feel like a sacrificial goat in the family. But everything that you do within the scope of the family need not work out just because you think they are?your?people — that is just your thought. They are just people. If you give yourself totally to them and make their lives beautiful, they will yield to certain things.
家庭對(duì)于滿足你的身體、心理趴生、財(cái)務(wù)及社會(huì)的需求是非常重要的阀趴。你創(chuàng)建了那個(gè)你稱之為“家庭”的組織，是為了滿足你的需求苍匆。別忘了這點(diǎn)×跫保現(xiàn)在，你可能感覺(jué)在家庭中像一個(gè)犧牲品锉桑，但只是因?yàn)槟阏J(rèn)為他們是你的人排霉，這并不能意味著你在家庭范圍內(nèi)所做的一切都會(huì)管用——這只是你的想法。他們只是人而已民轴，如果你將自己完全給予他們攻柠，讓他們的生命變得美麗，他們會(huì)開(kāi)花結(jié)果的后裸。
The beauty of motherhood is not in reproduction. The beauty of motherhood is in inclusion.
母性之美并非在于繁衍后代瑰钮，母性之美在于包容。
More horrible things happen within the family in terms of anger, hatred and struggles than what happens between two enemy nations. I am not saying this is right or wrong. But you made your association for your needs to be fulfilled, and now you are expecting all the life that evolved out of this family to happen the way you want it to. This does not mean all of them must turn out the way you want them to be – they will not. Just remain in gratitude and do the best you can. “But they are suffering. I don’t want them to suffer.” Yes, we don’t want them to suffer. Not just because they are your family, we don’t want anybody to suffer. It is time that you enlarge your desire to all. “I don’t want anybody to suffer.”
家庭中發(fā)生的由憤怒微驶、仇恨和斗爭(zhēng)所引起的悲慘事件要超過(guò)兩個(gè)敵國(guó)之間所發(fā)生的浪谴。我不是說(shuō)這是對(duì)或錯(cuò)。但你組建了這個(gè)組織來(lái)滿足你的需求因苹，現(xiàn)在你期望這個(gè)家庭的生活完全要按照你想要的樣子來(lái)發(fā)展苟耻。這并不意味著所有家庭成員都要變成你所期待的樣子——他們不會(huì)。你僅僅需要保持感恩扶檐，并盡可能做到最好凶杖。“但他們?cè)谑芸嗫钪也幌胱屗麄兪芸嘀球稹！笔堑哪问幔覀儾幌胱屗麄兪芸噼就澹粌H僅因?yàn)樗麄兪悄愕募胰恕覀儾幌Ｍ魏稳耸芸唷Ｊ菚r(shí)候?qū)⒛愕目释麛U(kuò)大至所有人：“我不想任何人受苦攘须∑嶙玻”
During the 20s, 40s and even 60s, family meant “crime” in America — the mafia. Even today, that is what it means. I want you to understand this, what you see as evil on this planet is not coming from some devilish source. It is human beings who think, “Only these three people belong to me. The rest don’t belong to me.” It is what they perceive as wellbeing for these three people that causes all the rubbish to everything else. It may be a family, community, race, religion or nation. It is this limited perspective of life that causes all the evil on this planet, and it starts with the family. Please expand your idea of family.
20、40甚至60年代，在美國(guó)叫挟，家庭意味著“犯罪”——黑手黨艰匙。甚至是今天，家庭也是這個(gè)含義抹恳。我想讓你們理解這一點(diǎn)员凝，你在這個(gè)世界上看到的邪惡，并非來(lái)自什么邪惡的人奋献，而是來(lái)自于人類(lèi)的思考：“只有這三個(gè)人屬于我健霹，其余的人都不屬于我∑柯欤”正是他們認(rèn)為會(huì)給這三個(gè)人帶來(lái)福祉的東西糖埋，造成了對(duì)其它一切的傷害。不管你是局限于一個(gè)家庭窃这、社區(qū)瞳别、種族、宗教或是國(guó)家杭攻，正是這種對(duì)生命有限的視角造成了地球上所有的邪惡祟敛，而這最初始于家庭。所以請(qǐng)擴(kuò)展你關(guān)于家庭的定義兆解。
Your children may have taken only one cell from you. But how much have you taken from this planet? How many cells? The whole of it, even if you cannot think beyond your biology! The planet and everything that comes out of it is more of a family than somebody who just took one cell from you. You may not like this at all, especially just after Mother’s Day, but the beauty of motherhood is not in reproduction. The beauty of motherhood is in inclusion. It is not because your mother reproduced you, bore you and let you out. That is not why a mother is precious. She is precious because, in many ways, she saw you as a part of herself. It is not the biology; it is the inclusiveness. Suppose your mother bore you and never bothered about you, she would be your worst enemy. It is not the biological process that is significant here. It is the willingness to include another life as part of yourself. It is that beauty we are trying to celebrate with Mother’s Day.
你的孩子從你身上拿了一個(gè)細(xì)胞馆铁，但你從這個(gè)地球拿走了多少？多少細(xì)胞锅睛？你的每一個(gè)細(xì)胞都是從這顆星球上拿走的埠巨。這顆星球和這里所有的一切，都比只是從你這里拿了一個(gè)細(xì)胞的人更是家人现拒。你可能不愿意承認(rèn)這一點(diǎn)辣垒，尤其現(xiàn)在剛過(guò)完母親節(jié)，但我想說(shuō)印蔬，母性之美不在于繁衍后代乍构。母性之美在于包容。母親十月懷胎孕育了你扛点，把你生出來(lái)，這并不是母親可貴的原因岂丘。她可貴是因?yàn)樵诤芏鄬用媪昃浚涯憧醋魇撬约旱囊徊糠帧Ｋ赃@不在于生物性奥帘，而在于包容性铜邮。假如你的母親生下了你，但從不管你，她可能就成了你最壞的敵人松蒜。關(guān)鍵不在于生物的繁衍扔茅，而在于將另一個(gè)生命包容為自己的一部分的意愿。在母親節(jié)我們想要慶祝的秸苗，正是那種美召娜。
【思考】
鄉(xiāng)愁：
年少時(shí)，從不理解鄉(xiāng)愁是什么惊楼，因?yàn)橐晃兜南胍x開(kāi)熟悉的不能再熟悉的地方玖瘸，想要去另一片天地遨游暢想。
長(zhǎng)大了檀咙，才發(fā)現(xiàn)雅倒，鄉(xiāng)愁，根深蒂固在你的內(nèi)心深處弧可。走過(guò)千萬(wàn)里路蔑匣，依然忘不了的那個(gè)地方，那個(gè)讓你安心的地方棕诵。
坐在高鐵上裁良，兩眼望著窗外。突然覺(jué)得年鸳，西北的荒蕪趴久，那種光禿禿的樹(shù)杈，與黃土色的土地搔确，以及帶點(diǎn)霧蒙蒙的藍(lán)天彼棍，竟然是如此的美，而不再是詩(shī)里永遠(yuǎn)的凋零感和蕭瑟感了膳算。仿佛這才是真正北方冬天的特色座硕。突然覺(jué)得，是那么的美涕蜂，美到不是綠能替代的华匾。因?yàn)樗仟?dú)一無(wú)二的。
以前總覺(jué)得江南水鄉(xiāng)的冬天才富有生機(jī)机隙，江南水鄉(xiāng)的房子才具有特色蜘拉。如今，看著一排排零散在田間的房子有鹿，腦海里全是坐在炕上的溫暖旭旭，和大家聚在一團(tuán)的熱鬧。突然之前葱跋，那種感覺(jué)就讓人覺(jué)得持寄，這才是北方冬天的紅紅火火源梭。雖然干燥、雖然冷稍味，但也就是那份燥和冷废麻，才讓冬天獨(dú)具特色，才讓炕舒服到替代不了模庐。
外面久了烛愧，才發(fā)現(xiàn)，曾經(jīng)熟悉的地方赖欣，美的地方不熟沒(méi)有發(fā)現(xiàn)屑彻，而是習(xí)以為常就不覺(jué)得美了。有了對(duì)比才發(fā)覺(jué)確實(shí)美顶吮，確實(shí)好社牲。
那一碗米，一碗面悴了，吃的不能再舒服搏恤。再好吃的外賣(mài)也做不出媽媽的味道，于是鄉(xiāng)愁更加的凸顯一個(gè)人的經(jīng)歷湃交。經(jīng)歷多了熟空，好像只有故鄉(xiāng)能解除一切思念。而我們搞莺，離開(kāi)好像就是為了發(fā)現(xiàn)原本的美一樣息罗。
所以當(dāng)以前別人覺(jué)得你回家很虧的時(shí)候，我很想告訴他才沧，并不虧迈喉，每天能吃上母親做的飯，與家人在一起温圆，是無(wú)與倫比的幸福挨摸。。
大的地方固然可以施展才華岁歉，卻沒(méi)有那么濃的人情味得运，反而顯得陌生。
【每日一句】
回家總是開(kāi)心快樂(lè)而迫不及待的锅移，離家則是無(wú)奈而負(fù)有責(zé)任的熔掺。
【夢(mèng)境】
不太記得了
【每日反思與改過(guò)】
晚上由于太困，對(duì)弟弟的提問(wèn)沒(méi)有很好的回應(yīng)非剃，而是多以嗯瞬女，有吧等回應(yīng)。本來(lái)弟弟還說(shuō)的挺開(kāi)心努潘，說(shuō)著說(shuō)著，便也沒(méi)有了興趣。我又不太好打斷他疯坤，結(jié)果最后他也困了也就不說(shuō)了报慕。其實(shí)是我覺(jué)得他正在興致上，只是我困了压怠，但還不想打斷他眠冈。但其實(shí)有時(shí)候可以找合適的時(shí)候來(lái)表達(dá)，如果聽(tīng)則菌瘫，仔細(xì)認(rèn)真聽(tīng)了蜗顽，不用擔(dān)心不聽(tīng)了之后對(duì)方的不耐煩。
