感想
Habit2 To Begin With The End
先要想好你想干什么馅巷,你的長遠(yuǎn)目標(biāo)京郑,他就像黑暗中的燈塔,有了他你才能一直朝正確的方向前進(jìn)礼搁。
To begin with the end means to start with a clear understanding of your destination. It means to know where you are going so that you better understand where you are now and so that the steps you take are always in the right direction.
那如何知道自己到底想要什么?
想象一下你正在參加自己的葬禮笨腥,此時你想對那個閉上雙眼的自己你想說什么拓哺?
更加實(shí)際點(diǎn)的方法是:寫一個personal mission〔蹦福或者說是長期目標(biāo)士鸥。先識別一下自己在家庭,公司或者其他組織中自己的角色谆级,再想想自己這個角色上你想達(dá)到什么目標(biāo)础淤。
既然這個目標(biāo)如此重要,那我們應(yīng)該如何繪制哨苛?要用self-awareness,imagination and conscience鸽凶,同時應(yīng)該是principle-centered。這時候我們要充分發(fā)揮自己的想象力建峭,要把這個目標(biāo)想的足夠吸引自己玻侥。李笑來老師當(dāng)年就把背單詞和自己以后的收入聯(lián)系起來,在他自己的計(jì)算公式中亿蒸,背一個單詞值50塊呢凑兰!他每天背單詞都覺得自己賺大發(fā)了,所以動力滿滿边锁。
有時候我們的大腦就像孩子需要哄姑食,你找到對的刺激方法,就能不斷激發(fā)它了茅坛。
Habit3 Put First Things First
有了方向后音半,在每天的日常中生活中具體該怎么做?
說起來很簡單贡蓖。先做重要的事曹鸠。那么問題也來了,到底什么是重要的事斥铺?工作時處理緊急的郵件彻桃?刷手機(jī)?鍛煉身體晾蜘?
What matters most gets buried under layers of pressing problems, immediate concerns, and outward behavior.
每個人一天都只有24小時邻眷,雖然現(xiàn)在科技讓我們可以更極速的溝通眠屎,更快的到達(dá)目的地,但我們的時間卻還是不夠用肆饶。這也是為什么現(xiàn)在時間管理方面的書籍如此暢銷组力。但我們真的能管理時間嗎?不管你在不在意時間抖拴,他總是自顧自的滴答滴答的流逝燎字。而我們能管理的只有自己。所以我們需要主動出擊阿宅,想好哪些重要候衍,不然只會現(xiàn)在緊急的泥沼里越陷越深。
In other word, if you are an effective manager of yourself, your discipline from within; it is a function your dependent will.
作者給我們的建議是在habit2的基礎(chǔ)上做周計(jì)劃洒放。當(dāng)你執(zhí)行完計(jì)劃后還要回過頭來看看計(jì)劃的實(shí)施情況蛉鹿,并進(jìn)行修正,以計(jì)劃更精準(zhǔn)的指導(dǎo)實(shí)際行動往湿。
書中有關(guān)怎么下放權(quán)利(delegation)的部分讓我印象特別深刻妖异。應(yīng)該大多數(shù)人都有這樣的經(jīng)歷:小時候父母要我們幫忙洗碗,可是他們卻怕我們洗不干凈领追,我們邊洗他們邊在旁邊說應(yīng)該如何如何他膳。這樣不僅他們沒有真正得到放松,我們自己也覺被背嘮叨很煩绒窑。
書中給出的建議是以下幾個步驟:desired results, guideline, resources, accountability, consequences.其中前兩項(xiàng)非常重要棕孙,要讓被安排工作的人明確知道自己的目標(biāo)。比如洗碗些膨,應(yīng)該讓要洗碗的人知道洗碗不僅碗要洗干凈蟀俊,沒有油漬,鍋啊订雾,灶臺啊也要全部清理干凈肢预。guideline不是要告訴他每一步具體怎么做,而是要根據(jù)你自己以前做過的經(jīng)驗(yàn)告訴他怎么做不對洼哎,至于怎么做對可以讓他自由發(fā)揮烫映,發(fā)揮自己的創(chuàng)造性。
Summary
Habit 2 and Habit 3 are based on the principle that all things are create twice. The first on is a mental(Habit2), and the second one is a physical(Habit3).
What is the principle to create the mental one? To begin with the end. That means before you do something, you should firstly set a clear destination. Only in this way you can go in the right direction or you will go no where though you are fully occupied. If you want becoming your own creator, use selfawarenee, imagination and conscience to be proactive.
The most effective way to begin with the end is to develop a personal statement. Firstly, ?write your personal statement mission in terms of the importance roles in your life; secondly, ?think about your long term goal you want to accomplish and ?visualize it in rich details.
Habit 3 is the physical creation, the fulfillment and self management. You should focus on the things that are important but not urgent because you are easily get buried under pressing problems. The best way to motivate you to do this is to organize your life on a weekly basis.
Words
1.conscience[?k?n?(?)ns]
Through conscience, we can come in contact with universal laws or principles with our own singular talents and avenues of contribution.
the part of your mind that tells you whether what you are doing is morally right or wrong
a guilty/troubled conscience/a clear conscience
a clear conscience (=the knowledge that you have done nothing wrong) I was able to answer his questions with a clear conscience.問心無愧
a guilty/troubled conscience (=the knowledge that you have done something wrong) His guilty conscience kept him awake at night.
2.undoing
But to focus on money-making as a center will bring about its own undoing.
be sb’s undoing to cause someone’s shame, failure etc:失斊拙弧(或垮臺窑邦、破產(chǎn))的原因
例:In the end, drink was his undoing.
造句:The lack of experience is his undoing.
3.intrigue/?n?tri?ɡ/
I am alway intrigued whenever I go to IBM and watch the training process there.
to interest someone a lot, especially by being strange, unusual or mysterious (尤指因奇怪、不尋澈咎剑或神秘而)使很感興趣,迷住
例:Throughout history, people have been intrigued by the question of whether there is intelligent life elsewhere in the universe.
造句:I am always intrigued when I read the unsolved mystery.
4.deep-seated
When these deep-seated tendencies combine with the emotional dependency in the marriage, the spouse-centered relationship reveals all its vulnerability.
a deep-seated attitude, feeling, or idea is strong and is very difficult to change ? deep-rooted/implanted
例:The country is still suffering from deep-seated economic problems
造句:The Christian have deep-seated faith in God.
5.phenomenal
But striving to achieve it will have a phenomenal impact on personal effectiveness.
very great or impressive:
例:the phenomenal success of computer games in recent years
phenomenal growth/rise/increase
例:California had experienced a phenomenal growth in population.
造句:His rise to fame was phenomenal.