Obama, the former president of America, participated in Dreamer Forum held on September 20th in New York. PengPai News compiled(編譯) his speech and subsequent interview by the Bill Gates. Melinda Gates asked Obama how he and Michel Obama taught their children. "First," Obama replied, "we've been trying to make kids realize that everyone in the world has a responsibility. When you are young, you should take fewer responsibilities on your shoulders. At most, parties are held. When you grow up, your responsibilities will become more and more. To be a responsible person is the most important, and this is the sign of a complete, mature human being. By working hard to improve other people's life, they gain influence. Friendship, caring, compassion, and hard work are values that are passed on to children, as well as the tools they change the world."
Second, different personalities and different talents determine that children will choose different ways of life, but everyone can have the way to create value for society. For example, if you are an engineer, the best way of creating value is making an APP of the mobile phone, instead of going to deliver a speech; your specialty is to take care of people, then you can create value by being a teacher or working in the hospital, rather than do anything else.
Third, learn to persevere. Obama himself used to work in a poor community in Chicago, which taught him a lot. In the poor communities, communities would be better funtioned by building parks, after-school mentoring programs and career training programs, but there were still many problems to be solved. Obama said: "I learnt from the accumulation of experience, but often got impatient, and later realized that the change and progress happen slowly, not as fast as we think they should be. We are easily disappointed and frustrated, and we must have patience as well as insist on it."
Melinda Gates also asked Obama how he looked at the changes in the world and what people could learn from it. Obama said, most human progress and big change, are created by young people, and yet older people has entered the comfort zone or to maintain their status and way of behavior, but they become complacent(固步自封的)." Martin Ruud Kim, for example, began his civil rights campaign at the age of 26. The motivation for young leaders to change is that they keep asking "why not" instead of "why?".
In addition to the Internet and changes in public awareness, Obama says there is a profound discovery: "a lot of sports are based on a story."". Therefore, leaders who want to change the world must learn to tell stories. And if you can't understand the people who support you, such as everything those people go through, including your neighbors, colleagues, friends, and people who are different from you , you won't be able to create an inspiring story. Consequently , "we should learn to listen and learn to think from the others’ point of view.". This understanding will enable you to keep people together strongly." Otherwise, if you can not tell a story that the general public care about , they will say, "I am experiencing a lot of difficulties myself. Why should I care about other people's problems?"
奧巴馬如何教育子女
美國(guó)前總統(tǒng)奧巴馬9月20日參加了在紐約舉辦的守夢(mèng)者論壇晌畅，澎湃新聞編譯了他的演講和隨后比爾·蓋茨夫婦對(duì)他的采訪(fǎng)斯撮。梅琳達(dá)·蓋茨問(wèn)奧巴馬，他和米歇爾·奧巴馬是如何教育孩子的佑笋。奧巴馬回答說(shuō)洼畅，首先胖替，“我們一直試圖讓孩子們意識(shí)到世界上的每個(gè)人都有責(zé)任焊唬。當(dāng)你小的時(shí)候故痊，肩上的責(zé)任也很輕顶瞳，頂多是舉辦幾個(gè)聚會(huì)；當(dāng)你長(zhǎng)大了，責(zé)任也就越來(lái)越重浊仆。做一個(gè)有責(zé)任心的人是最最重要的客峭，這才是一個(gè)完整的成熟的人類(lèi)的標(biāo)志。要通過(guò)努力工作來(lái)改善他人生活抡柿，這樣才能獲得影響力舔琅。友愛(ài)、關(guān)心他人洲劣、有同情心和努力刻苦备蚓，是傳遞給孩子們的價(jià)值觀，也是他們改變世界的工具囱稽〗汲ⅲ”
其次，不同的性格战惊、不同的特長(zhǎng)注定了孩子們會(huì)選擇不同的人生道路流昏，但每個(gè)人都有為社會(huì)創(chuàng)造價(jià)值的方式。比如吞获，如果你是個(gè)工程師况凉，最好的創(chuàng)造價(jià)值的方式是做一個(gè)手機(jī)APP，而不是去演講各拷；你的特長(zhǎng)是照顧人刁绒，那你可以通過(guò)當(dāng)老師或在醫(yī)院工作來(lái)創(chuàng)造價(jià)值，而不是干別的烤黍。
第三知市，學(xué)會(huì)堅(jiān)持。奧巴馬自己曾經(jīng)在芝加哥的貧窮社區(qū)工作速蕊，這段經(jīng)歷教會(huì)他很多東西嫂丙。在窮人的社區(qū)內(nèi)，通過(guò)建立公園互例、為孩子們做課后輔導(dǎo)項(xiàng)目和職業(yè)培訓(xùn)項(xiàng)目奢入，社區(qū)會(huì)好轉(zhuǎn)起來(lái)，但是過(guò)程中仍然有很多問(wèn)題要解決媳叨。奧巴馬說(shuō)：“我從中學(xué)習(xí)腥光，不斷積累經(jīng)驗(yàn)，也經(jīng)常會(huì)不耐煩糊秆，后來(lái)才意識(shí)到變化和進(jìn)步是慢慢發(fā)生的武福，不像我們想得那么快，很容易失望和受挫痘番，我們要有耐心捉片，要堅(jiān)持平痰。”
梅琳達(dá)·蓋茨還問(wèn)奧巴馬伍纫，他如何看待世界的變化宗雇，以及人們可以從中學(xué)到什么。奧巴馬回答說(shuō)莹规，大多數(shù)人類(lèi)的進(jìn)步和大的變革赔蒲，都是由年輕人創(chuàng)造的，而年齡大一點(diǎn)的人良漱，“已經(jīng)進(jìn)入了舒適圈或要極力維護(hù)他們的地位和行為方式舞虱，反而固步自封∧甘校”比如馬丁·路德·金在26歲時(shí)就開(kāi)始發(fā)起民權(quán)運(yùn)動(dòng)矾兜。促使青年領(lǐng)袖們做出改變的動(dòng)力是，他們會(huì)不斷去問(wèn)“為什么不呢”患久，而不是問(wèn)“為什么要做這件事”椅寺。
除了互聯(lián)網(wǎng)以及公眾意識(shí)的變化之外，奧巴馬說(shuō)墙杯，還有一點(diǎn)他認(rèn)為意義很深遠(yuǎn)的發(fā)現(xiàn)是配并，“很多的運(yùn)動(dòng)都起源于一個(gè)故事”括荡。因此高镐，想要改變世界的領(lǐng)導(dǎo)者，要學(xué)會(huì)講故事畸冲。而如果你不能理解支持你的人嫉髓，比如鄰居、同事邑闲、朋友以及和你不同的人們所經(jīng)歷的一切算行，你就沒(méi)有辦法創(chuàng)造出一個(gè)打動(dòng)人心的故事。所以苫耸，“我們要學(xué)會(huì)傾聽(tīng)州邢，學(xué)會(huì)站在別人的角度考慮問(wèn)題。這種理解褪子，才能讓你把大家緊密團(tuán)結(jié)在一起量淌。”否則嫌褪，如果不能講出一個(gè)普通大眾關(guān)心的故事呀枢，他們會(huì)說(shuō)，我自己也在經(jīng)歷很多困難笼痛，為什么要關(guān)心別人的問(wèn)題裙秋？
