介紹：肥皂劇劇情往往跌宕起伏摹迷，看似超出實際生活，但它又來源于實際生活。本期TED演講者Kate Adams女士認為我們能從被生活忙得團團轉的角色身上學到四個重要的人生道理露氮。?

it's never too late to change your story

lesson1：surrender is not an option ?投降不是選擇

肥皂劇："All My Children"《我們的孩子》

"All My Children"'s Erica Kane was daytime's version of Scarlett O'Hara, a hyperbolically self-important princess who deep down was scrappy and daring. Now, in her 41 years on TV, perhaps Erica's most famous scene is her alone in the woods suddenly face to face with a grizzly bear. She screamed at the bear, "You may not do this! Do you understand me? You may not come near me! I am Erica Kane and you are a filthy beast!"?

《我的孩子們》的艾瑞卡卡恩是電視版的斯佳麗奧哈拉钟沛，一個夸張畔规、以自我為中心的公主她的內心深處是好斗和大膽。艾瑞卡在她41年的電視生涯中恨统，可能是最出名的場景就是：她獨自在森林里突然和一個灰熊面對面叁扫。她朝灰熊大喊：“你不能這樣！你聽不懂嗎畜埋？ 你不能靠近我莫绣！我是艾瑞卡卡恩 而你是一個卑劣的野獸！

金句：obstacles are to be expected and we can choose to surrender or we can stand and fight（人生總會有障礙但我們可以選擇投降悠鞍，或者站出來斗爭）

現實例子：Pandora's Tim Westergren knows this better than most. You might even call him the Erica Kane of Silicon Valley. Tim and his cofounders launched the company with two million dollars in funding. They were out of cash the next year. Now, lots of companies fold at that point, but Tim chose to fight. He maxed out 11 credit cards and racked up six figures in personal debt and it still wasn't enough. So every two weeks for two years on payday he stood in front of his employees and he asked them to sacrifice their salaries, and it worked. More than 50 people deferred two million dollars, and now, more than a decade later, Pandora is worth billions.?

潘多拉的蒂姆韋斯特格倫最了解這個道理对室。你甚至可以叫他硅谷的艾瑞卡卡恩。 蒂姆和其他聯(lián)合創(chuàng)始人集資了兩百萬咖祭，成立公司掩宜。但他們在第二年就用光了資金。很多公司都在那個時候放棄么翰，但是蒂姆選擇斗爭牺汤。他刷爆11張信用卡，背負了六位數的債務硬鞍，但這還不夠慧瘤。兩年來每兩周發(fā)工資的那天，他都會站在他的員工前請求他們放棄他們的工資固该，這有了成效锅减。超過50個人貢獻了兩百萬美金，現在伐坏，十多年后怔匣。潘多拉的估值高達幾十億。?

金句：When you believe that there is a way around or through whatever is in front of you, that surrender is not an option, you can overcome enormous obstacles.（當你相信有辦法可以解決你眼前所面對的任何問題時桦沉，投降不是一個選擇每瞒，你可以克服巨大的障礙。）

lesson 2： sacrifice your ego and drop the superiority complex? 放下你的自大和高人一等的情緒

肥皂劥柯丁："The Bold and the Beautiful"《大膽而美麗》

"The Bold and the Beautiful" thought she was pretty darn special. She thought she was so special, she didn't need to mix with the riffraff from the valley, and she made sure valley girl Brooke knew it. But after nearly 25 years of epic fighting,Stephanie got sick and let Brooke in.They made amends, archenemies became soul mates and Stephanie died in Brooke's arms剿骨。

《大膽而美麗》的斯坦芬尼福瑞斯特 認為她自己非常特殊。她覺得她特殊到不需要和來自村莊的普通人往來埠褪，她還警告村莊的女孩布魯克要知道這點浓利。但是在快25年的史詩般的斗爭后挤庇，斯坦芬尼生病了，讓布魯克進入了她的內心贷掖。她們重修舊好嫡秕，從敵人變成了靈魂伴侶，最后斯坦芬尼死在布魯克的懷里苹威。

雞湯：Drop your ego. Life is not about you. It's about us, and our ability to experience joy and love and to improve our reality comes only when we make ourselves vulnerable and we accept responsibility for our actions and our inactions昆咽。（放下你的自大。人生談的不是你牙甫，人生談的我們掷酗，談的是我們享受快樂、愛情和改善現狀的能力腹暖，只有在我們最脆弱的時候汇在，承擔起我們所作所為的責任以及不作為的責任。）

現實例子：Howard Schultz, the CEO of Starbucks.after a great run as CEO, Howard stepped down in 2000, and Starbucks quickly overextended itself and stock prices fell. Howard rejoined the team in 2008, and one of the first things he did was apologize to all 180,000 employees. He apologized. And then he asked for help, honesty, and ideas in return. And now, Starbucks has more than doubled its net revenue since Howard came back脏答。

霍華德舒爾茨糕殉，星巴克的CEO，
在結束了偉大的CEO任職后殖告，霍華德在2000年辭職阿蝶，但星巴克因迅速地過度擴張，造成股價下跌黄绩∠劢啵霍華德在2008年重新加入團隊，他做的第一件事爽丹，就是向18萬員工道歉筑煮。他向員工道歉，并尋求幫助粤蝎、真誠和建議≌嬷伲現在，自從霍華德歸隊后初澎，星巴克的凈利潤超過兩倍秸应。

雞湯：So sacrifice your desire to be right or safe all the time. It's not helping anyone, least of all you. Sacrifice your ego.（放下自己對正確和安全的渴望，並不會幫助到任何人碑宴，也幫不了自己软啼。放下你的自大。）

lesson 3：evolution is real 進化是現實的

肥皂勓幽：On television, static equals boring and boring equals fired. Characters are supposed to grow and change. Now, on TV, those dynamic changes can make for some rough transitions, particularly when a character is played by one person yesterday and played by someone new today. Recasting happens all the time on soaps.Over the last 20 years, four different actors have played the same key role of Carly Benson on "General Hospital." Each new face triggered a change in the character's life and personality. Now,there was always an essential nugget of Carly in there, but the character and the story adapted to whomever was playing her.?

在電視圈祸挪，一層不變意味著無聊，無聊意味著隨時會被解雇贞间。角色應該有成長和變化贿条。在電視上盈罐，那些充滿變數的改變，可以創(chuàng)造出一些劇烈的轉變闪唆，特別是當一個角色昨天是一個演員，今天卻是另一個演員钓葫。在肥皂劇里悄蕾，角色重塑是很常見的。過去的20年里础浮，四個不同的演員都扮演過 《綜合醫(yī)院》的重要角色帆调，卡莉本森。 每一個嶄新的臉龐都引發(fā)了角色的生活和人格的變化豆同。雖然卡莉的本質還在番刊，但是角色和故事都要適應扮演她的人。

雞湯：we may not swap faces in our own lives, we can evolve too.We can choose to draw a circle around our feet and stay in that spot, or we can open ourselves to opportunities影锈。（然我們不能在生活中變換面容芹务，但我們可以進化。我們可以選擇畫地自限鸭廷，或者我們可以向機會敞開心扉）

現實例子：Julia, her books and her TV shows revolutionized the way America cooks. Julia was a World War II spy, and when the war ended, she got married, moved to France, and decided to give culinary school a shot. Julia, her books and her TV shows revolutionized the way America cooks.

卡莉枣抱，從一個護士專業(yè)學生變成酒店業(yè)主，像朱莉婭查爾得辆床，是一個二戰(zhàn)間諜佳晶，當戰(zhàn)爭結束候，她結了婚讼载、搬到法國轿秧，并決定去烹飪學校學習。朱莉婭咨堤，她的書和電視節(jié)目顛覆了美國烹飪的方式菇篡。

雞湯：We all have the power to initiate change in our lives, to evolve and adapt. We make the choice, but sometimes life chooses for us, and we don't get a heads up. Surprise slams us in the face. You're flat on the ground, the air is gone, and you need resuscitation. （我們在生活中，都有啟動改變的能力吱型，為了進化和適應環(huán)境逸贾，我們做出選擇，但有時候我們不得不向生活低頭津滞，意外扇了你一個耳光铝侵，你躺在地板上，不知所措触徐，你需要恢復知覺咪鲜。）

lesson 4 : resurrection is possible 重生是有可能的

肥皂劇："Days of Our Lives"'《我們的日子》

In 1983, "Days of Our Lives"' Stefano DiMera died of a stroke, but not really, because in 1984 he died when his car plunged into the harbor, and yet he was back in 1985 with a brain tumor. But before the tumor could kill him, Marlena shot him, and he tumbled off a catwalk to his death. And so it went for 30 years.Even when we saw the body, we knew better. He's called the Phoenix for a reason.As long as the show is still on the air, or you're still breathing, nothing is permanent.Resurrection is possible.

1983年撞鹉，《我們的日子》的斯特凡諾德米拉死于中風疟丙，但那不是真的颖侄，因為在1984年他因車子掉進海港而死亡，但是他在1985年帶著腦瘤復活了享郊。在腫瘤殺死他之前览祖，馬里拉朝他開槍，他摔進狹窄巷道死亡炊琉。而這花了30年展蒂。當我們看到他的尸體，我們很清楚苔咪，他被稱作鳳凰是有原因的锰悼。這對我們的意義是，只要劇還在播出团赏，或者你還在呼吸箕般。沒什么是不變的。重生是有可能的舔清。

現實的例子：CBS canceled my show, "As The World Turns," in December 2009, and we shot our final episode in June 2010. It was six months of dying and I rode that train right into the mountain. And even though we were in the middle of a huge recession and millions of people were struggling to find work, I somehow thought everything would be OK. So I packed up the kids and the Brooklyn apartment, and we moved in with my in-laws in Alabama.Three months later, nothing was OK. That was when I watched the final episode air, and I realized the show was not the only fatality. I was one too. I was unemployed and living on the second floor of my in-laws' home, and that's enough to make anyone feel dead inside.But I knew my story wasn't over, that it couldn't be over. I just had to tap into everything I had ever learned about soap operas. I had to be brave like Erica and refuse to surrender, so every day, I made a decision to fight. I had to be vulnerable like Stephanie and sacrifice my ego. I had to ask for help a lot of times across many states. I had to be adaptable like Carly and evolve my skills, my mindset, and my circumstances, and then I had to be resilient, like Stefano, and resurrect myself and my career like a phoenix from the ashes. Eventually I got an interview. After 15 years in news and entertainment, nine months of unemploymentand this one interview, I had an offer for an entry level job. I was 37 years old and I was back from the dead.

CBS在2009年12月取消了我的肥皂劇——《地球照轉》丝里，我們在2010年6月，錄制了最后一集鸠踪。在那痛苦的六個月當中丙者，我的人生看不到光明。即使我們的經濟仍在衰退营密，百萬人掙扎著尋找工作械媒，但我覺得一切都會變好。我?guī)е⒆悠捞x開布魯克林的公寓纷捞，和親家一起 居住在阿拉巴馬州。三個月后被去，沒有好轉的跡象主儡。在我看了最后一集的播出後， 我意識到不僅那個電視劇結束了惨缆， 我也失業(yè)了糜值。 我沒有了工作，住在親家的二樓坯墨。 真的有夠難受的寂汇。但是我知道我的故事還沒有結束， 也不會結束捣染。 我只要運用我從肥皂劇 里學到的所有東西骄瓣。 我要像艾瑞卡一樣勇敢并拒絕投降。 所以每天耍攘，我都會做一個斗爭的決定榕栏。 我要像斯坦芬尼一樣脆弱畔勤， 放下自大。 我要在很多州尋求很多幫助扒磁。 我需要像卡莉一樣善于適應 并進化我的技能庆揪、思考和境遇， 然后我還要像斯特凡諾一樣頑強妨托， 使我自己和我的職業(yè)重生 就像鳳凰涅槃一樣嚷硫。最后，我得到了一個面試始鱼。 在新聞和娛樂界工作了15年， 失業(yè)了9個月 在這次面試之后脆贵， 我得到了一個入門級別的工作機會医清， 我當時已經37歲， 我復活重生卖氨。

雞湯：as long as there is breath in your body, it's never too late to change your story.（只要你還有一口氣在会烙， 改變你的故事永遠不會太晚。）

關于演講方式的思考

12分鐘4個lessons筒捺，每節(jié)課先引用一個經典的肥皂劇情節(jié)/主人公柏腻，引發(fā)觀眾/聽眾的共鳴；之后拋出一句心靈雞湯系吭；然后舉一個真實的例子來論證之前的說法是正確的五嫂，接著也要拋出一個再次強調論點的雞湯。如此反復肯尺，至結束沃缘。

經典情節(jié)可以更換為故事、電影则吟、文學作品等（切記要家喻戶曉槐臀，大眾熟知，這樣才會有共鳴氓仲，引發(fā)進一步溝通的熱情）水慨。

例子最好為名人的（這樣比較有信服力，名人效應）敬扛，或自己的（比較有可信性）晰洒。

雞湯一定要和內容契合度高，且簡單易懂舔哪，容易記欢顷。