I believe that the way we make our dreams into reality is by constantly engaging with reality in pursuit of our dreams and by using these encounters to learn more about reality itself and how to interact with it inorder to get what we want—and that if we do this with determination, we almost certainly will be successful. In short:

要夢想成真，得不斷在現(xiàn)實里歷練蜕青，追尋夢想右核，總結(jié)教訓(xùn)，進(jìn)而獲得成長贺喝，了解現(xiàn)實，明白如何解決現(xiàn)實中的問題氮采，實現(xiàn)自己的目標(biāo)——下定決心鹊漠，堅持不懈，定能成功躯概。簡而言之：

Reality + Dreams + Determination = A Successful Life

現(xiàn)實+夢想+決心=成功的人生

So what is success? I believe that it is nothing more than getting what you want—and that it is up to you to decide what that is for you. I don’t care whether it’s being a master of the universe, a couch potato, or anything else—I really don’t. What is essential is that you are clear about what you want and that you figure out how to get it.

成功是什么?沒什么比實現(xiàn)夢想更重要了娶靡，想要什么是自己決定的。做宇宙之主塔鳍？躺沙發(fā)看電視的宅男艾凯？還是別的什么懂傀？我可不在乎，重要的是清楚自己想要什么恃泪，知道怎么去實現(xiàn)這個夢想贝乎。

However, there are a few common things that most people want.

然而叽粹，有些東西看起來普通，但卻是大多數(shù)人都想要的锤灿。

As I mentioned, for most people success is evolving as effectively as possible, i.e., learning about oneself and one’s environment and then changing to improve. Personally, I believe that personal evolution is both the greatest accomplishment and the greatest reward.

我說過但校，對大多數(shù)人來說状囱，成功是一個高效的進(jìn)化過程，即了解自己和周遭環(huán)境亭枷、做出改變奶栖、獲得提高。我認(rèn)為實現(xiàn)個人進(jìn)化袍镀，即成長是最偉大的成就冻晤，也能獲得最豐厚的回報鼻弧。

Also, for most people happiness is much more determined by how things turn out relative to their expectations rather than the absolute level of their conditions. For example, if a billionaire loses $200 million he will probably be unhappy, while if someone who is worth $10 thousand unexpectedly gets another $2 thousand, he will probably be happy. This basic principle suggests that you can follow one of two paths to happiness: 1) have high expectations and strive to exceed them, or 2) lower your expectations so that they are at or below your conditions. Most of us choose the first path, which means that to be happy we have to keep evolving.

同樣叉存，對大多數(shù)人來說度帮，幸福感取決于同自身期望值的關(guān)聯(lián)度，而非個體條件的絕對水平瞳秽。例如率翅，一個億萬富翁輸了兩億美金冕臭，他可能會不開心，但如果另一個身價一萬美元的人意外獲得了兩千美金悯蝉，那他可就樂開了花念颈。這條基本原則說明，通往幸福之路有兩條：1）期望值高跺撼，努力超越讨彼；2）降低期望值，符合或低于自身客觀條件哩至。大家一般都會選第一條路菩貌，也意味著想幸福重荠，就得不斷成長戈鲁。

Another principle to keep in mind is that people need meaningful work and meaningful relationships in order to be fulfilled. I have observed this to be true for virtually everyone, and I know that it’s true for me.

另一條要牢記的原則是诈乒，充實的生活需要從事有意義的工作，需要跟值得打交道的人建立人脈怕磨。我發(fā)現(xiàn)這幾乎是適用于每個人的一條真理癌压，當(dāng)然荆陆，對我更是如此。

As Freud put it, “Love and work are the cornerstones of our humanness.”

弗洛伊德說過：愛情和工作是我們?nèi)诵缘幕?/p>

The work doesn’t necessarily have to be a job, though I believe it’s generally better if it is a job. It can be any kind of long-term challenge that leads to personal improvement. As you might have guessed, I believe that the need to have meaningful work is connected to man’s innate desire to improve. And relationships are the natural connections to others that make us relevant to society.

工作不一定是一份職業(yè)集侯，當(dāng)然我覺得最好是一份職業(yè)被啼。只要是一項長期挑戰(zhàn)，可以提升自我棠枉，就能稱作是工作浓体。我認(rèn)為必須從事有意義的工作，因為想要提升自己是人類與生俱來的欲望辈讶，所以我們在社會中才會自然而然和他人建立關(guān)系命浴。

Regardless of others’ principles, you will need to decide for yourself what you want and go after it in the best way for you.

別的原則暫且不談，首先你得決定自己想要追尋的是什么，并通過最適合自己的方式實現(xiàn)它生闲。

Your Most Important Choices

你最重要的選擇

As I mentioned, as we head toward our goals we encounter an enormous number of choices that come at us, and each decision we make has consequences. So,the quality of our lives depends on the qualityof the decisions we make. We literally make millions of decisions that add up to the consequences thatare our lives.

我提過媳溺，實現(xiàn)目標(biāo)的征途中悬蔽，會遇到大量選擇，我們要依次做出抉擇禾乘，得到結(jié)果，生活質(zhì)量取決于我們所作的抉擇的質(zhì)量鳄虱。我們大概會做出百萬次抉擇，最終的結(jié)果累加構(gòu)成了我們的人生。

Of these millions, I believe that there are five big types of choices that we continually must make that radically affect the quality of our lives and the rates at which we move toward what we want. Choosing well is not dependent on our innate abilities such as intelligence or creativity, but moare on what I think of as character. For this reason, I believe that most people can make the right choices.

這百萬次選擇中建车，我們一直在做的深刻影響生活質(zhì)量與實現(xiàn)目標(biāo)速度的選擇主要有五大類。選對與否不是取決于我們天生的智慧或創(chuàng)造力领斥，而是取決于我們的性格孽锥，所以我認(rèn)為大多數(shù)人都能做出正確的選擇。

The following five decision trees show these choices. I believe that those who don’t move effectively to their goals do the things on the top branches, and those who do move to them most quickly do the things on the bottom branches.

下面五大“決策樹”體現(xiàn)了這些選項。實現(xiàn)夢想的征途上，效率低下之人會選上分支的選項实牡，效率高的會選下分支的選項。

First:

第一個選擇：

It is a fundamental law of nature that to evolve one has to push one’s limits, which is painful, in order to gain strength—whether it’s in the form of lifting weights, facing problems head-on, or in any other way. Nature gave us pain as a messaging device to tell us that we are approaching, or that wehave exceeded, our limits in some way. At the same time, nature made the process of getting stronger require us to push our limits. Gaining strength is the adaptation process of the body and the mind to encountering one’s limits, which is painful. In other words, both pain and strength typically result from encountering one’s barriers. When we encounter pain, we are at an important juncture in our decision-making process.

大自然的一條根本定律是总滩，要想進(jìn)化席函，就要突破極限，承受痛苦营曼，方能獲得成長，舉重也好蒜危，直面難題也好，都不外乎如此。大自然賦予我們痛苦赘风，其實是讓我們感受到離目標(biāo)越來越近，或已在某方面超越了自己的極限瞬捕。同時，大自然中物種變得強(qiáng)大的過程也要求突破極限。獲得成長是身心適應(yīng)環(huán)境，了解自身極限的痛苦過程钾挟，換句話說苫费，痛苦與成長都源自克服自身障礙的過程闲礼，當(dāng)我們感到痛苦之時嫁蛇，我們其實是處于做出抉擇的重要分叉口第煮。

Most people react to pain badly. They have “fight or flight” reactions to it: they either strike out at whatever brought them the pain or they try to run away from it. As a result, they don’t learn to find ways around their barriers, so they encounter them over and over again and make little or no progress toward what they want.

大多數(shù)人對疼痛反應(yīng)激烈，采取“戰(zhàn)斗或逃避”的法子，要么奮起反抗給他們帶來痛苦的東西苟呐，要么就想逃之夭夭笆呆，結(jié)果呢，終究沒能解決這些障礙，這也決定了他們將會一次又一次遇到這些困難嫌套，遭受痛苦，無法取得進(jìn)步，無法達(dá)成目標(biāo)。