日期：2021.01.25
【人物學(xué)習(xí)】
寶釵：
最近在聽蔣勛老師講紅樓鸽素，對一些人物有了新的認(rèn)識。后續(xù)可能會逐步講一講自己覺得蠻有趣的人物吧亦鳞。
今天就先講講寶釵馍忽。
最初理解的寶釵棒坏，是那個(gè)懂事且聽話的那種淑女類型。不似黛玉那般傷感與哀傷遭笋，說話刺刺的坝冕，寶釵似乎被所有人所喜歡，覺得好相處坐梯。
聽完蔣老師的講解徽诲，才發(fā)現(xiàn)說，那種好相處或者說性格好吵血，也不過是一種成熟之后的內(nèi)斂，知道如何自己會過得舒服些吧偷溺。
有一節(jié)是寶玉去看生病的寶釵蹋辅，知道寶釵有一個(gè)金鎖，一定要看挫掏。于是侦另，寶釵拿金鎖的過程中，顯露了寶釵內(nèi)心的一種表現(xiàn)尉共。平時(shí)穿著挺樸素且不鮮艷的寶釵褒傅，里面穿著是鮮艷的紅色，以及瓔珞等珠寶器物等袄友。最后拿出了那個(gè)金鎖殿托。所以你看，外表上素雅靜淡的寶釵剧蚣，內(nèi)心是如此的 火熱支竹。從中醫(yī)給她開的藥方也可以瞥見一二，都是白色經(jīng)過露水后的各種花鸠按，因?yàn)榛鹛罅死窀椤Ｊ裁椿鹉兀烤褪莿傞_始想要進(jìn)入朝廷選妃的目尖，只是沒有被選中了馒吴。
所以，不像王熙鳳那樣顯露出火熱的性格瑟曲，她的內(nèi)斂的饮戳，反倒讓外人各個(gè)喜歡。但內(nèi)心卻是非常有心設(shè)計(jì)的测蹲。將金鎖透露給寶玉莹捡，給他暗示金玉良緣。但從來都不說破扣甲±河或者可以這么理解齿椅，她是很聰明的，但是非常善于裝傻启泣，反倒活的自在涣脚。
【作品學(xué)習(xí)與讀書】
薩古魯：女性應(yīng)該工作和追求事業(yè)嗎？
Question:?Nowadays, there is sometimes a disdain towards women who are housewives and are not employed. Even when we have young children, this attitude persists. What should one do??
問：如今的社會里寥茫，那些全職太太和沒有工作的女性有時(shí)會遭受歧視遣蚀。甚至當(dāng)我們有了小孩時(shí)，這種態(tài)度依舊持續(xù)纱耻。那么個(gè)人能做什么呢芭梯？
Sadhguru:?Generally, people work for financial needs. If you are working out of a passion for what you are doing, that is different, but most people work for financial gain. So, if there is a financial requirement in a family, women going to work or pitching in by working from home is perfectly fine. The question is not about whether you should work or not. The question is about whether there is such a need or not.?If the need has become social rather than financial, I don’t see a need that every woman must work. The idea of creating so much technology in the world is that someday, we create a world where neither man nor woman needs to work. We can live on a vacation! But many people work because they are in a mode of compulsive action. They don’t know what else to do with themselves. That is an unfortunate way to be.?
Sadhguru（薩古魯）：普遍而言，人們?yōu)榻?jīng)濟(jì)需求而工作弄喘。如果你因熱愛它而去做一件事玖喘，那另當(dāng)別論，但大多數(shù)人是為了獲取錢財(cái)蘑志。所以累奈，如果一個(gè)家庭有經(jīng)濟(jì)需求，那么女性外出或者在家遠(yuǎn)程工作急但，為家里做出貢獻(xiàn)是完全可以的澎媒。但問題不在于你該不該工作，而在于有沒有這樣的需求波桩。如果是出于社會性的需求戒努，而非經(jīng)濟(jì)上的，那么我不認(rèn)為每位女性都必須工作突委。我們發(fā)明了那么多技術(shù)就是為了有一天創(chuàng)造出一個(gè)男人和女人都不需要工作的世界柏卤。我們可以一直在假期中！很多人工作是因?yàn)樗麄兲幱趶?qiáng)迫性行動的狀態(tài)匀油。他們不知道還可以該拿自己怎么辦缘缚。那是一種不幸的存在方式。
Coming to women in particular, this idea that every woman should work has gained great momentum in the last 40 to 50 years. It has come because of a certain element of exploitation that happened to women because of their financial dependence on the man. As a reaction to that, women thought the only way is to go to work. But I think it is only in some families that such exploitation happens. It is not true with many families.? The idea that you are a real woman only if you earn money, has been borrowed from the man’s mind. In the name of women’s liberation, women have taken on men’s values. This is true slavery. If she wants to become free, a woman should not take on man’s values. She should see how to?enhance the feminine into a flower-like, fragrant existence on the planet. This is something only she can do.?
說到女性敌蚜，認(rèn)為女性應(yīng)該工作的觀念是近40-50年才顯著增強(qiáng)的桥滨。它的出現(xiàn)是因?yàn)榕栽诮?jīng)濟(jì)上依賴于男性，進(jìn)而導(dǎo)致了對她們某種程度的剝削和利用弛车。作為回應(yīng)齐媒，女性認(rèn)為唯一的辦法就是出門工作。但是我認(rèn)為只是在一些家庭中有這樣的剝削和利用纷跛，多數(shù)家庭中并不是這樣的情況喻括。“只有能夠賺錢時(shí)你才是個(gè)真正的女人”贫奠，這是從男人的頭腦中借來的觀念唬血。以女性自由的名義望蜡，女人們采納了男人的價(jià)值觀。這是真正的奴役拷恨。如果她想自由脖律，一個(gè)女人不應(yīng)該去采納男人的價(jià)值觀。她應(yīng)該看看如何將自己的陰性提升為像花一樣芬芳的存在腕侄。這一點(diǎn)只有女性才能做到小泉。
Looking at Life Beyond Your Wellbeing
超越自身幸福去看待生命
The world becomes beautiful not because you earn money. Whether it is an individual’s life or a family, community or the world, it becomes beautiful because there are a few people who exist out of their love, truly wanting to reach out and do something beyond their personal wellbeing. That is what makes the world beautiful.
這個(gè)世界不是因?yàn)槟阗嶅X而變得美麗。無論是個(gè)人的生活還是一個(gè)家庭冕杠、社群或者世界微姊，它變得美麗是因?yàn)橛幸蝗喝顺鲇趷郏媲械叵胍斐鲭p手分预，去做一些超越自身幸福的事情柒桑。是這一點(diǎn)讓世界美麗。
In terms of my personal experience, my mother never went to work outside, and my father would have never thought that she should work. But was she a useless person? Absolutely not. Without her, what would we be? Her dedication, the way she gave herself to her children and husband, is what has made us who we are.
就我個(gè)人經(jīng)歷而言噪舀，我的母親從未出門工作過，我的父親也從未想過她應(yīng)該工作飘诗。那她是個(gè)無用的人嗎与倡？當(dāng)然不是。沒有她的話昆稿，我們會成什么樣纺座？正是因?yàn)樗母冻觯驗(yàn)樗菢訉⒆约悍瞰I(xiàn)給了孩子和丈夫溉潭，才造就了我們净响。
A deep sense of concern, care and looking at life beyond your own personal wellbeing was something that was instilled in us simply by looking at her. There was no way you could miss it because her life was never about herself. With great joy, day or night, she served her family. This was not slavery, this was done out of absolute love.?If you told her that she was being exploited, she would have been immensely offended because for her, it was such an experience of love to expend herself in doing what she was doing.
只是看著她，她那深沉的關(guān)懷以及超越自身幸福去對待生命的情感就浸入了我們的內(nèi)心喳瓣。你不可能錯(cuò)過它馋贤，因?yàn)樗囊簧鷱牟皇菫榱怂约骸阎薮蟮南矏偢形飞拢找篂樗募胰朔?wù)著配乓。這不是奴役，這是出于她純粹的惠毁、絕對的愛犹芹。如果你告訴她她正在被剝削利用，她會感到極大的冒犯鞠绰，因?yàn)閷λ齺碚f腰埂，將自己投入于所做的事情之中，是如此美好的一場愛的體驗(yàn)蜈膨。
The world becomes beautiful not because you earn money. Whether it is an individual’s life or a family, community or the world, it becomes beautiful because there are a few people who exist out of their love, truly wanting to reach out and do something beyond their personal wellbeing. That is what makes the world beautiful.
這個(gè)世界不是因?yàn)槟阗嶅X而變得美麗屿笼。無論是個(gè)人生活還是一個(gè)家庭牺荠、社群或者世界，它變得美麗是因?yàn)橛幸蝗喝顺鲇趷鄣蟛罚媲械叵胍斐鲭p手志电，去做一些超越自身幸福的事情。是這一點(diǎn)讓世界美麗蛔趴。
A family is the smallest unit of community in the world, and if this does not happen in a family, it will not happen anywhere in the world.?If a child is not exposed to this sense of love and dedication right from childhood, it will not happen.
在這個(gè)世界上挑辆，家庭是社群的最小單位。如果這一點(diǎn)無法發(fā)生在一個(gè)家庭中孝情，它就更不可能發(fā)生在世界上的任何一處鱼蝉。如果一個(gè)孩子從小沒有生活在這樣的愛和奉獻(xiàn)中，這一點(diǎn)將無法發(fā)生箫荡。
Making a Difference
帶來不同
This does not mean a woman cannot do this if she goes to work. If there is a need to work, she has to do something about it. Once again, to take my mother as an example, she did not go to work, but she made sure that whatever could be done at home was done, so that it need not be bought in the shop.
這并不意味著魁亦，如果女人去工作她就不能做到這樣。如果她有工作的需求羔挡，那么她就必須為此做點(diǎn)什么洁奈。再次以我的母親為例，她沒有出門工作绞灼，但是她確保只要在家里能夠解決的事情就在家里完成利术，這樣就不必去商店買。
Throughout my childhood, until I moved out of my family situation, I never slept on a pillow without a little bit of embroidery. She always made sure there would be at least some embroidery – maybe a little parrot or a little flower. Without this, my life wouldn’t be the same. She could have bought it in the shop. My father could afford it, but she made sure that she did that little thing. That was her way of pitching in. Whether you make money or you save money, it is still a contribution to the family.? So, how a particular woman functions is an individual aspect. But no one needs to develop a philosophy that all women should work or all women should not work
我的整個(gè)童年低矮，直到我離家前印叁，我所睡過的枕頭上一定都會有一點(diǎn)刺繡。她總是確保我的枕頭上有一點(diǎn)刺繡——也許是一只鸚鵡或一朵小花军掂。如果沒有這個(gè)轮蜕，我的生命將會不同。她其實(shí)完全可以去商店買蝗锥，我的父親也能夠付得起跃洛，但她會自己來做。那是她為這個(gè)家庭貢獻(xiàn)的方式玛追。無論你掙錢或省錢税课，都是對家庭的貢獻(xiàn)。所以一位女性如何發(fā)揮作用取決于個(gè)人痊剖，我們不需要發(fā)展出一套哲學(xué)韩玩，說所有的女性都應(yīng)該工作或者不工作。
【思考】
解釋：
解釋是一件非常費(fèi)事的事情陆馁，有時(shí)候真的會越解釋越亂找颓，越描越黑，越發(fā)離開真相叮贩，越發(fā)難以收拾击狮。
才發(fā)現(xiàn)佛析，很多時(shí)候，其實(shí)彪蓬，多說不如不說話寸莫。因?yàn)槟阏f說出的每一個(gè)字，都有可能被對方看成是針對點(diǎn)來反駁档冬。
所謂膘茎，爭論，根本不會有結(jié)果酷誓，因?yàn)閷Ψ郊词箾]有爭辯成功披坏，也是內(nèi)心不服的。
所以盐数，也才逐漸發(fā)現(xiàn)棒拂，那些說教、理由玫氢、或者更多的解釋帚屉，突然顯得沒有那么的重要。如果沒法用心去看漾峡，說什么又有什么用呢涮阔？
可我們?yōu)槭裁匆忉專恳驗(yàn)橛袝r(shí)候會存在誤解灰殴。解釋就是說，我告訴你了掰邢，你理解錯(cuò)了牺陶，但至于你信與不信，自己判斷吧辣之。
長大后掰伸，不像小時(shí)候，對什么事情都是相信怀估。有了自己的判斷狮鸭，也有了懷疑的成分。相信多搀，變得十分的珍貴歧蕉，不再是隨地播撒。
有時(shí)候也知道說康铭，嗯惯退，信與不信又有什么關(guān)系呢？人想要解釋从藤，無非想要對方理解自己催跪。
可锁蠕，最終不可能所有人都理解你，那么自己理解自己最主要懊蒸，而不是去說服別人來理解自己荣倾。
所以，解釋多了骑丸，只能顯得更加無助 和雞肋舌仍。不如，默默地去做自己想做的事情，很多重新認(rèn)識阁簸，留給他人去定奪吧欢策。
【每日一句】
陽光的明媚，似乎一切都明朗起來
【夢境】
不太記得了
【每日反思與改過】
注意自己情緒的變化推姻，萬不可因?yàn)閯e人的一些話，做出一些沖動的事情框沟〔毓牛控制自己的情緒，學(xué)會在穩(wěn)定情緒下再進(jìn)行表達(dá)忍燥。
事不過三拧晕，否則自己會有些力不從心。
