Answers to the guiding questions:
? ①What does Charles Bukowski’s success try to prove?
His success proved that although he knew he was a loser, he honestly accepted it and lived completely comfortable with himself as a failure.
? ②What’s wrong with the conventional life advice, which is fixating on what you lack?
Conventional life advice --the positive and self-help stuff is actually fixating on what we lack. It remind us over and over again of what we are not, of what we lack, of what we should have been but failed.
? ③Can you use your own words explaining what the Feedback Loop from Hell is?
? Feedback Loop from Hell is an anxious ,upset,sad ,worried… consciousness or feeling which was caused from being in anxiety,upset,sadness…
Reflections about the first chapter:
You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of .You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life.
幸福的人從來不會大聲對外人說自己幸福叠艳，你可以從她的言談舉止中感受到她的幸福琅催；生命的意義并不在于追求生命的意義瓣铣，只有你認認真也的活過，生命才有意義唉侄。
Notice how it’s often the person who is the least invested in the success of something that actually ends up achieving it?
人生有時候就是很奇妙，你越是想要得到某物执庐，越努力的去爭取贰镣，反而結果越是讓人失望，這是不是就是我們所說的希望越大孽惰，失望就越大呢晚岭。有時候什么也沒想，就靜靜的去把該做的事情做了勋功，卻有意想不到的收獲坦报，正如Eric在他的筆記所說的，“年輕人狂鞋，你的職責是平整土地片择，而非焦慮時光。你做三四月的事骚揍，在八九月自然有答案字管。”
The avoidance of suffering is a form of suffering. The avoidance of struggle is a struggle. the denial of failure is a failure. Hiding what is shameful is itself is a form of shame.
逃避永遠不是解決問題的辦法信不，但是逃避確是我的慣用法嘲叔，工作中遇到不聽課，不學習英語抽活，不背單詞的學生了硫戈，管幾次我就開始逃避了，假裝沒看到假裝他學了酌壕，其實下一次上課你看見這幾個學生掏愁，你就會痛苦的想起這個問題，看見一次卵牍，我的內心就會折磨一次果港，這個問題就擺在那里，活生生的在提醒著我糊昙，我有個未解決的問題辛掠，直到有一天，他們徹底地連做樣子給我看的興趣都沒有的時候，我才驚恐地想地意識到自己不能在假裝我不知道這回事兒了萝衩。其實在逃避的過程中我也很痛苦回挽，內心也很煎熬，什么事情都不能拖猩谊，最終還是要去解決千劈。
As we grow older,with the benefit of experience ,we begin to notice most of these sorts of things have little lasting impact on our lives.
人生就是做減法，經(jīng)歷的越多牌捷，在乎的東西越少墙牌，經(jīng)歷時間的沉淀，最終才會發(fā)現(xiàn)我們最在乎的東西莫過于平安健康的家人暗甥，愛人心疼的目光喜滨，和煦的春風，燦爛的陽光撤防，平靜而豐盈的心……
All in all,don't be a Mr talker, be a Mr doer.Don't regret for not trying.
Words and expressions:
1,At night, he would drink alone and sometimes hammer out poetry on his beat-up old typewriter.
hammer out:v, discuss vehemently ['vi?m?ntli](激烈地虽风，竭盡全力地) in order to reach a solution or an agreement 設計出，苦心想出寄月，
eg:We should hammer out a solution for school violence.
beat-up: adj, old and in bad condition; damaged by blows or hard usage 破舊的辜膝，磨損的
eg: The winner of the most-beat-up-bike contest would get a new bike.
2.His popularity defied everyone’s expectation, especially his own.
defy:v, ⑴ try to behave in a particular way, refuse to obey 違背
? ? ? ⑵ challenge sb to do it when you think that they will be unable to do it or too frightened to do it. 向…挑戰(zhàn); 挑釁
? ? ? ⑶? If something defies description or understanding, it is so strange, extreme, or surprising that it is almost impossible to understand or explain. 使不可能 (理解或解釋)
Eg: This was the first time that Su Tungpo defied the court.
? ? He has the confidence and passion to defy the convention.
? ? His behavior defied all comprehension.
3.You are bombarded with messages to give a fuck…
be bombarded with: be flooded with; be surrounded by
eg: Every day we are bombarded with ads.
4…and cases of depression have skyrocketed over the pat thirty years.
Skyrocket:v, If prices or amounts skyrocket, they suddenly increase by a very large amount. ,like a rocket 使猛增，使猛漲
Eg;The price of this brand clothes has skyrocketed.
5.Meanwhile,our credit cards are maxed out…
max out:v,? reach a maximum,達到最高限度剥懒，刷爆
eg: I maxed out my card.
6…after a lifetime of failure and self-loathing.
self-loathing:adj, feel great dislike and disgust for onself.自我討厭的内舟，自我厭惡的
eg:The feelings of disgust, hatred, self-loathing, sadness, anger and loneliness have become too much.
