原題：Sloane Crosley: ‘What to do when you lose a friend’
編譯：彭宇
校對：薛金鑰 羿春艷
時間：2024年4月25日
紐約作家斯隆·克羅斯利（Sloane Crosley）以生活中的日常悲情為主題進行寫作。她2022年出版的小說《另類經(jīng)典》（Cult Classic）以及包括《保持活力》（Look Alive Out There）和《有人告訴我這里會有蛋糕》（I Was Told There’d Be Cake）在內(nèi)的散文集，揭示了許多令人感興趣的經(jīng)歷和尷尬瞬間，以及作為人類存在的日常現(xiàn)實——我們隨時都可能會犯錯固额。克羅斯利的新書《悲傷為人留》（Grief is for People）既展現(xiàn)了紐約作家諾拉·伊芙律反稀（Nora Ephron）的啟示性斗躏、坦誠的風(fēng)格，又具有瓊·迪迪昂（Joan Didion）的悲傷回憶錄《魔法思維之年》（The Year of Magical Thinking）中的坦率和感人之處米绕。
在克羅斯利最親密的朋友羅素·佩羅（Russell Perreault）自殺后瑟捣，她的內(nèi)心被無盡的悲傷所淹沒，她寫道：“我心碎了栅干，悲傷已成為我的日常迈套。”這句話開啟了她的探索悲傷之旅碱鳞，也是她的新書《悲傷為人留》（Grief is for People）的引子桑李。這本回憶錄以克羅斯利標(biāo)志性的幽默和敏銳的洞察力，將她的個人故事與對悲傷的反思相結(jié)合。在寫作《悲傷為人留》（Grief is for People）之前贵白，克羅斯利意識到文學(xué)領(lǐng)域缺乏痛失好友的相關(guān)作品率拒，于是她決定用自己的文字填補這一空白〗模克羅斯利以自己獨特的方式描述了與羅素的友誼猬膨，以及他的突然離世給她帶來的沖擊和痛苦。通過回憶和沉考呛伴，克羅斯利試圖理解和接受悲傷的過程勃痴，并與讀者分享她的成長和治愈之旅。
在《悲傷為人留》（Grief is for People）中热康，克羅斯利將好友離世與她家族傳承珠寶被盜故事交織在一起沛申，這種雙重打擊讓她陷入了一種深深的悲傷和迷茫之中〗憔克羅斯利以幽默和機智的方式描述了自己在處理這兩個事件時的掙扎和困惑铁材。通過將這兩個故事結(jié)合起來，克羅斯利探索了悲傷和失去的復(fù)雜性奕锌，以及在巨大的心理壓力下如何重拾力量和希望著觉。盡管克羅斯利坦誠地承認寫作無法完美地揭示一個人的本質(zhì)，但克羅斯利意識到歇攻，無論她如何努力固惯，文字只能勾勒出殘缺的人。然而缴守，克羅斯利相信這本回憶錄本身超越了她個人的旅程，能夠幫助他人理解和面對失去朋友的悲傷镇辉÷潘耄克羅斯利希望通過分享自己的經(jīng)歷和感受，為那些經(jīng)歷類似悲傷的人提供一種共鳴和支持忽肛。
《悲傷為人留》（Grief is for People）不只是關(guān)乎悲傷和遺失村砂，它也探討友誼和成長。通過回憶和反思屹逛，克羅斯利展示了她與羅素之間的深厚情誼础废，以及他的離世如何影響了她的人生『蹦＃克羅斯利分享了自己在悲傷中的探索和發(fā)現(xiàn)评腺，以及如何逐漸恢復(fù)和重新定義自己的生活。
總的來說淑掌，斯隆·克羅斯利（Sloane Crosley）的《悲傷為人留》（Grief is for People）是一本既幽默又深刻的回憶錄蒿讥，探索了失去親密好友所帶來的痛苦和成長。通過她獨特的寫作風(fēng)格和敏銳的洞察力，克羅斯利向讀者展示了悲傷的不可避免性芋绸，并鼓勵他們在面對失去時尋找希望和力量媒殉，同時也向所有讀者傳遞了關(guān)于友誼和人生意義的深刻思考。
Sloane Crosley, a New York-based writer who writes about the everyday tragedies of life. Her 2022 novel, Cult Classic, and a collection of essays including Look Alive Out There and I Was Told There’d Be Cake reveal many fascinating experiences, embarrassing moments, and the everyday reality of being human - we can make mistakes at any given moment. Crossley’s new book, Grief is for People, draws on the revelatory, candid style of the New York writer Nora Ephron, and it also has The frankness and touching touch of Joan Didion’s sad memoir, The Year of Magical Thinking.
After the suicide of Crossley’s closest friend, Russell Perreault, she was overwhelmed by endless grief, writing: “My heart is broken, grief is a universal emotion.” These words became the starting point for her journey into Grief, and the introduction to her new book, Grief is for People. With Crossley’s typical humor and keen insight, this memoir combines her personal stories with reflections on grief. Before she wrote Grief is for People, Crossley thought there was a lack of writing about the experience of losing a friend, and she decided to fill the void with her own words. In her own unique way, Crossley describes her friendship with Russell and the shock and pain his sudden death caused her. Through reminiscence and reflection, Crossley seeks to understand and accept the process of grief and to share with the reader her journey of growth and healing.
In the book, Crossley interweaves the story of her friend’s death with the theft of the jewels she inherited. This double loss plunged her into a deep sense of sadness and confusion. With humor and wit, Crossley describes his own struggles and confusion in dealing with both events. By bringing these two stories together, Crossley explores the complexities of grief and loss, and how to find strength and hope in the face of immense psychological stress. Although Crossley is open about the fact that writing can’t capture the essence of a person perfectly, she realized that no matter how hard she tried, words could only paint a partial picture of a person. However, Crossley believes that the memoir itself transcends her personal journey and can help others understand and cope with the grief of losing a friend. Crossley hopes that by sharing her own experiences and feelings, she will be able to provide a sense of empathy and support for others going through similar grief.
Grief is for People is not only about grief and loss, it is also a story about friendship and growing up. Through memories and reflections, Crossley reveals the deep bond she shared with Russell and how his death affected her life. Crossley shared her own exploration and discovery through grief, and how she gradually recovered and redefined his life.
Overall, Sloane Crosley’s Grief is for People is a memoir that is both humorous and insightful, exploring the pain and growth that comes with losing a close friend. Through her unique writing style and keen insight, Crossley shows readers the inevitability of grief and encourages them to find hope and strength in the face of loss, while also conveying deep reflections on friendship and the meaning of life to all readers.
