情境三十二:錯誤的嫉妒
要素
嫉妒者
被嫉妒者,因擁有某物被人嫉妒
疑似同謀
誤會的原因或始作俑者
概要
由于某種原因或某人慫恿,嫉妒者開始嫉妒某物。其中有可能牽涉疑似同謀。
變體
A
1. 誤會源于嫉妒者的懷疑心理
2. 致命的契機引發(fā)錯誤的嫉妒
3. 錯誤地嫉妒一段柏拉圖式的純粹愛情
4. 惡意謠言引發(fā)毫無根據(jù)的嫉妒
B
1. 被仇恨驅使的叛徒引發(fā)嫉妒
2. 被自私驅使的叛徒引發(fā)嫉妒
3. 被嫉妒和自私驅使的叛徒引發(fā)嫉妒
C
1. 競爭者引發(fā)夫妻間相互嫉妒
2. 被拒絕的求婚者引發(fā)其丈夫的嫉妒
3. 愛上有婦之夫的女人引發(fā)該有婦之夫的嫉妒
4. 被輕視的競爭者引發(fā)妻子的嫉妒
5. 被欺騙的丈夫引發(fā)幸福的情人的嫉妒
判斷錯誤是故事中常見的模式之一彤恶,反映了我們的日常生活。當我們忽略重要事實而武斷假設時鳄橘,我們的決定很容易導致悲劇性的錯誤声离。
我們很容易嫉妒,當其他人為了某種目的試圖控制我們的時候瘫怜,他們會在我們身上挑起爭端术徊。
故事中的錯誤行為,讓我們厭惡不公正的行為鲸湃,或者對自己曾經犯過的錯誤感到內疚赠涮。這也提醒我們在做出決定前要三思子寓。
請注意,防御型“嫉妒”和渴望型的“嫉妒”經乘癯混為一談斜友,但仍需仔細區(qū)分。
Mistaken jealousy
Description
Elements
The Jealous
The Object of whose possessions he is jealous
The Supposed Accomplice
The Cause or the Author of the mistake
Summary
The Jealous person, through some Cause or Author, appears to becomes jealous of some Object. There may also be a Supposed Accomplice.
Variants
A
1. The mistake originates in the suspicious mind of the jealous one
2. Mistaken jealousy aroused by a fatal chance
3. Mistaken jealousy of a love which is purely platonic
4. Baseless jealousy aroused by malicious rumors
B
1. Jealousy suggested by a traitor who is moved by hatred
2. Jealousy suggested by a traitor who is moved by self-interest
3. Jealousy suggested by a traitor who is moved by jealousy and self-interest
C
1. Reciprocal jealousy suggested to husband and wife by a rival
2. Jealousy suggested to the husband by a dismissed suitor
3. Jealousy suggested to the husband by a woman who is in love with him
4. Jealousy suggested to the wife by a scorned rival
5. Jealousy suggested to a happy lover by the deceived husband
Discussion
Mistakes of judgement are one of the patterns that occur in stories that echo our daily lives. When we make assumptions and miss important facts, we can easily make decisions that turn out to be tragically wrong.
We can easily become jealous, which makes this a trigger that others can set off in us when they seek to manipulate us for other ends.
Seeing these mistakes played out in stories both horrifies us as we see injustice done and perhaps makes us feel guilt for the wrongs we have done. It also reminds us to take care before jumping to decisions.
Note that defensive jealousy and desiring envy are often confused, with the 'jealousy' being used to mean the 'envy'. This has fallen into common parlance but needs careful differentiation.